Unreasonable behaviour - acceptable reasons?

Hi there

Sorry I know this issue comes up loads.

I've been trying to word my points for Unreasonable Behaviour but am really unsure as to whether these will cut it. Any advice most gratefully received.



Respondent is self-employed and has worked excessively long hours over the last few months, typically Mon-Sat 6am-9/10pm and Sun mornings. This results in the Petitioner feeling isolated.

Petitioner was referred by doctor to attend counselling sessions in Aug 2009 which Respondent strongly disapproved of and attempted to prevent. This resulted in prolonging the depression which Petitioner had been diagnosed with.

Respondent controls finances and refuses to let Petitioner have active role in financial matters, even though Petitioner works full-time. Respondent thwarted previous attempts for Petitioner to open bank account of their own e.g. by destroying relevant mail addresssed to Petitioner. As a result Petitioner feels insignificant and not an equal partner in the relationship.

Abnormal lack of communication between Petitioner and Respondent e.g. Respondent refused to pass on important family news to Petitioner (Nov 2009). This behaviour has been observed by others and has caused the Petitioner to feel belittled and excluded.

In response to Petitioner suggesting separation/divorce, Respondent threatened to burn down the matrimonial home and kill Petioner’s family if Petitioner went to live with them (Oct & Nov 2009). Petitioner is now living in fear of Respondent.


Thanks

sounds fine to me but maybe put in an exact example of not passing on family news. Sounds similar to my solicitorfor my solicitors style in my URB petition

Hi - thanks for your reply. The family news was my husband's mum becoming engaged - I left out the specifics as I thought it sounded lame on paper but it was important to me because it was the straw that broke the camel's back. I only ever learn what's going on if I accidentally overhear my husband on the phone to someone else - and it's usually news that is less relevant to them than it is to me which is what gets me.

Hi Kittysparkles - Love the name!
If you are going through a solicitor, s/he will draft it all for you if you just explain the reasons in your own words. Nothing like advance preparation though, it will help keep costs down. Also, I think I would put that last point first. Try and keep your spirits up, take care. Chrys

Thanks for the advice Chrys

I haven't got a solicitor yet, mainly because of finances (still trying to sort out that pesky bank account of my own )

You are doing okay Kitty, so don't worry. I'm sure you will get great advice from the legal peeps on here but in the meantime there is lots of info on DIY divorce, free tools, library etc on here. And, of course, lots of posts from others which may be helpful. Information is power. Finances, what's that? Oh yes, something I used to have in a previous life.....