Need some advice - a nice clean break

Hello! I'm deroo and I'm at the early stages of my first (and hopefully last divorce).

My ex and I have been separated over 2 years, have no kids and are not fighting over anything material. Basically, I guess this is about as easy as it gets. All my efforts to get her back have failed, so we remain great friends who still love each other.

So, am I right in thinking I just need to fill in a D8 form, send it to my local court with the marriage certificate? Then my ex will receive her copy of the petition and have to acknoledge it. Once the court receives that then a judge will accept/refuse the grounds, if accepted he/she will isse a Decree Nisi, then wait 6 weeks and we apply of a Decree Absolute. Does all this sound right? I would rather we did this ourselves rather than going to a solicitor.

tbh, my head is all over the place at the moment, reading about all this divorce stuff is upsetting as I'm sure plenty of you know all too well. As much as I want to avoid divorce (haha) i must crack on and sort this.

Is DIYing is possible without having to know too much about the legal stuff?

Please please help
G

Hallo

It can be that simple, except that I think - no doubt a legal eagle can advise - in order to ensure neither of you comes back at a later date to the other with financial claims, you need to have your financial settlement ordered in court. But this is, I think a rubber stamp exercise, assuming the judge agrees its fair to both parties.

thx for the quick reply - I am sooper positive she would never come back to me for financial matters. I am considering using someone like quickie-divorce's persolalised service, I'm beginning to think that emotionally I should stay away as much as poss... what do you guys think?

Hello I used the onsite service they do the forms for you and the Consent Order (you should have one) £349 plus court fees and takes 12-16 weeks.

hi deroo,

i say expect the unexpected, so get the financial side sorted now, its not worth the hassle if you leave it, people and circumstances change, so if neither of you are claiming anything from each other, you might as well do it now. All loose ends tidied up, or it could bite you on the bum when least expecting it, trust me i know.

Take care

Lolly

thanks so far guys, gotta say I'm totally shitting my pants over this

Deroo,

First of all, there is a distinction to be drawn between the actual divorce itself and matters like finances and ancillary relief.

The divorce is relatively easy. What causes the problems are disputes relating to children and finances.

If there are no problems, on line services can be a very cost effective way of ending the marriage. Wikivorce offer such a service, but there are others.

My advice to you is that you should have an order from the Court, known as a a ' consent order ' which gives legal status to any agreement you have made between you. This prevents your x2b changing her mind and coming back for more, which she may be able to do. She may never actually do it ; but I can assure you, from reading these posts, that it happens.

Mike 100468