Mixed feelings

Finally got the truth or part of it. I found a printed e-mail sent to a guy in India saying she can''t wait to be with him. I confronted her and she admitted sleeping with him and she is going back to see him.

He is also married with 2 small children. What a pair of scum bags, he owns the tour company!

In a foolish rage I tried calling him and sent a snotty e-mail threatening to tell his wife, very childish in hindsight.

Hopefully this will give me a bit more leverage with the settlement? Can''t wait for it to end it is like a prolonged nightmare. Crazy thing is I still love her and would have her back tomorrow, what a fool I am.

Hi Rover03,
I feel for you, been down the same route as you and it sucks big time....
Some things to do or not do....

Where at all possible cut financial ties, if you have a joint mortgage make sure you register a marital dispute with the lender, this prevents any draw down on overpayments etc.

If you have her as an additional card holder on credit cards in your name cancel them BUT tell her you have done this.

Don''t be in a hurry to sell your home, and whatever you do, do not move out, this is very important.

With regard to your boys, they are of an age when they can decide what they want to do, you are going to have to roll with what they say, but make sure that you build a strong relationship with them.
Do not send any more emails/texts/phone calls to him, no good can come of it.

Your s2bx is way ahead of you both in terms of emotional state (you are dead to her) and her plans, take some timeout to get yourself as much information as you can, wiki will help you with this...

LB

Cheers lostboy, cancelled joint credit card, she has been hammering it.

Got a good strong bond with the boys so ok there and going to call a solicitor tomorrow.

She has been to mediation and I am waiting for an appointment so starting to progress thanks

Sorry Rover,
The people who have walked in your shoes,probably knew this outcome.
So get yourself checked out also..
Sorry mate...

Stay strong,it will get better...
One day at a time...

Xxxxxcwtchs