saying hi

Its odd having to introduce yourself in a forum that you wish you didnt have to be in but you need. I am divorcing my husband on grounds of unreasonable behaviour. He has had depression for years and does not work - things he says he cant help but I have to get out before I become ill myself. He is very controlling mentally and stifles the life out of me. Anyway enough of that things are now going ahead although I feel constant guilt over it.

hi rosie,

Welcome to wiki, its a good place.

Sometime in life we have to do what is best for ourselves, never an easy or simple decision.

You will find lots of practical help and emotional support.

Be kind to yourself.

mish

xx

Rosie, it's hard when you take the first steps....even knowing you're doing the right thing. You had a life together and loved eachother once, so you are bound to feel some sort of emotion.
Being with a controlling person (male or female) is so soul destroying that sooner or later you have to make a stand. My husband was one of those people. None of us wants to be on this site but we are all so glad we are! You are doing what you feel is right so please don't feel guilty.
Take care,
oddsocks

Welcome to Wikivorce

You have made the right decision for you, so stop feeling guilty. It does nothing apart from sap your energy.

You will feel better as time goes on and meanwhile you will get great support on this site.

Nellx

Hi Rosie,

Welcome to Wiki,

Don't be afraid to look after yourself without feeling guilty. You have to do what you feel is right.

I got to 22 years before realising I was in the wrong place. While I have had ups and downs since then, I have no regrets.

x

dadsrus

Hi rosie

just wanted to add my welcome to the others - wikivorce is a very supportive community. All of us would wish we didn't have to be here.... but since we are, this is the best place

Shezi

Hi Rosie

Although none of us want to be here in troubled times it is a great place to be. So many friends and there just when you need them.

The darkest days get lighter. It does get better. Take care and keep posting. Look forward to hearing from you.x