hubby walked out after 20 years

hi

2 weeks ago, my hubby walked out after 20 years together. we've been married for 5 years and have 3 children. his reason was he doesn't love me no more. i'm finding it so, so difficult. i'm not sleeping & eating. i know he isn't coming back as what was said was from the heart. that isn't my hubby at all. deep down, i know it's for the best but i just don't know how to move on. i'm in a very bad place right now and i need help getting out.

tina x

Hi Tina welcom to wiki you are in the right place for support.

My husband left me after 18 years of marriage for another women so i really, like many others on here know exactly what you are going through.(((( big hug ))))

It hurts like hell and its early days for you right now.just try to take each day at a time or hour by hour.

you are in shock and all i can say is its true when people say time is a great healer.

My sbex left me nearly 3 years ago and i wont lie its been a roller coaster journey but it does get better.

Have you any children ?
Have you a good network of friends to talk to ?

I could not eat either but i lost 1 stone in 3 weeks and my kids were worrying about me so i tried to eat and the only thing eventually i could eat was weetabix and apples or fromage frais. so try to keep yr strengh up and look afer yourself.x

I cant understand how you feel, but given time things will get better.

The most important thing to do is not to rush to your solictor, Give it some time and hope thing change and if they dont, then become amicable and then start your divorce process.

The important thing to remember is that amicable divorce will save you lots of more emotional pain and huge amount of money.

You could get a divorce done using online less than £1000.00, but if you use solictors it will cost several thoousand pounds.

Good luck
(I wish someone had offered me the same adivice)

good advice smalik wish someone told me that too x

thanx for the replies. i'm trying 2 eat little but often but i feel so sick. i'm going to make an appointment at the doctors today. i know it will get better but i'm just stuck in this deep dark place wiv 3 kids

luv tina xxx

What a shock for you but you have to take care of yourself. Eat! It will help you build the strength you need to take those baby steps forward with your life. Hold your kids tight and tell them you love them. Good luck with the doctors, let us know how you get on. Try not to isolate yourself, lean on friends and family, keep coming back to Wiki. You are not alone, we are taking this emotional journey with you and we do understand the pain you are going through.
Sending you a huge hug. (((((((((u))))))))
Best wishes
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Tina,
Big hugs!