coping after divorce

how do you cope when you have just gone through with a divorce and realise after allthe heartache you are still in love with the girlyou married and not the girl who just left and you cannot move on after 3 months:unsure:

guess you just take each hour as it comes and try to think you cant change wots happened.......try and build a new life and apparently with time the pain gets better x

try to change something else within you when you dont want to is hard focus on a goal a promise to yourself 3months is a very short time

The girl you married doesn't exist any more, so there is no future in loving her.

You need to draw a line and move on. You can't change the past, but you can change the future.

Plan something to look forward to every week, even if its just watching a dvd and having a pizza.

Accept all invitations and try some new things.

i'm the girl in the divorce but mine is no where near over and it looks like it could be going on for a long time yet, having said that i feel exactly the same as you do, however bad he has been, i still love the man he was, its 20 months since we split up, i'm broken hearted and he is getting on with his life, i hate feeling like this

Hi julie 66.Thankyou for your message earlier.I repled but my computer skills are lacking. Please contact again Rob ps You made me smile.

garthend wrote:

how do you cope when you have just gone through with a divorce and realise after allthe heartache you are still in love with the girlyou married and not the girl who just left and you cannot move on after 3 months:unsure:

Sorry to hear that! How long where you married and what was the reason for you divorcing?

You stated about the other woman, was she your girlfriend?

I do feel for the people, that are still in love with their ex's.. I am lucky as I have no feelings for my ex and to be honest never loved him...

I know that sounds strange, but he made himself out as a family man and instead he was a prima donna all about him..
He was the most selfish person, I have ever meet..He thought the world revolved around him and wanted everything his way all the time...

While my boyfriend is the most amazing man, that I love with all my heart, he is a family man, the most caring and an unselfish person that thinks about the needs of others...

When you are having a bad day, remember why your wife is your ex and you need to focus on that...

There is light at the end of the tunnel, it just might take some time but you will get there...

I hope your pain starts to fade away in time