Xmas eve at 4:51

What a good site! Iv'e been awake for 2 hours as sleep has abandoned me again. Looking outside its a snowy morning 1st one at xmas I can remeber in years. Trial seperation in March ex's idea quickly became permanent the reason beeing is that she is now with my best or ex best mate. 2 kids one upstairs asleep and the other wants nothing to do with me and totally supports mum, thinks hes best thing since sliced bread, of course hes never had to say NO to her. 1st xmas on my tod has anyone any suggestions so I can try and keep my chin up if only for the kids??

Tigger....

First thing, don't lose hope.

Second thing, avoid the alcohol. One or two is fine, but it will be the alcohol that will bring you down.

Also, there will be loads of us on here tomorrow, even if it is only to pop in and say 'hi'. If you need it, you can pop into chat and you will get loads of Christmas cheer.

The most important thing to remember is to be gentle with yourself. Don't let the festivities overwhelm you, after all, it is only one day and you have the rest of your life ahead of you to look forward to.

xxxxx

Tigger,

Welcome to wiki. I am sure you will find all the support and help you need here.

Christmas is just one day so think of it like that. Do the best you can for your children.

Poppie xx

Thank you both will be on tomorrow to wish merry xmas to all.

Welcome to wiki. \Last year was my "first " xmas . I tired to make it different from previuos years - to establish new little traditions. why not do go out for a walk with your little one. When they are asleep , come and join the fun in the chat room am sure lots ofpeople will be popping in and out over the festive period. last y ear it was a lifeline to me, this year it will be nice to be a freindly ear to others. take care, and happy christmas xx

1st suggestion: Read dis

Lots of people post about there 1st xmas alone.

And the key is your not alone.

And kids usualy (but not always) side with mum. As mum (usualy) can do no wrong. So dont worry that its anything to do with you. A freind of mine his ex wife was a total sl** and a sl**. And the kids knew this and guess where they think the sun shines out of? Correctomondo.

But in all honesty its just 24 hours. The people that bought 3 trolleys worth of stuff will not be able to goto the shops becuase they are so full and the shops will be empty of people. I think this is the best thing about xmas. Ohh and the empty roads.

Being single xmas doesnt mean the same things as when you are in a family. But keep your chin up. By the time boxing day comes around then you will wonder what all the fuss was about. Happy xmas. C.

Thx all for your kind worde. not seen daughter but had a good day with lad hes back upstairs now. bit choked earlier but feeling better now merry xmas all