Shockedandstunned

Hello.

Like my username I am shocked and stunned. I recently found out that my wife of just over a year has been having an affair. I am so upset about this I feel like I am dying.

How could she lie to me like this?

I moved to be with her and so now I am left with no friends of my own and feel totally alone in the world.

Hi S&S,

Well now you have found some new friends! And you no longer have to feel so alone.
It really is a terrible time for you right now and most people on here will know exactly how you feel.
At this present moment in time you will think you will never get over this but I can assure you, with help and support from everyone on here things will get a little easier.
whether you and your wife can make a go of things only you will know that answer.
The thing is nothing is worth dying for, we are all here for a reason, (what that reason is I have no idea)
You will spend hours and hours torturing yourself wondering why she has lied to you, I doubt you will ever find out why.
Why people do what they do, I dont think half ever really know why.
I wish I could say to you just forget her and move on but you wont be able to do that,(not at this moment anyway) there will be so many questions running around in your head, all of which will upset you more if you think about them too deeply.
None of us like to feel we have been betrayed, it tugs at your heart strings and makes life feel rotten.
I could sit here and tell you the points of law and where you stand on a divorce path, but my feelings are that you are not ready for that just yet.
Maybe this marriage is worth saving, like I said before only you will know that.
I dont even really have any words of comfort either, well none that are going to make you feel any better.
I do know this though and thats in time you can get over this, everyone on here will help you, this site has helped hundreds and hundreds if not thousands of folk, some are the adulterous, some are the injured party, some are at that bitter stage, many are at the angry stage, some are people who feel like you at the moment and some are at the stage where their new life is about to begin.
Here you may just find the answers you are looking for, the chat room is one helpful place if you ever feel like talking and being able to post there will be someone who will answer you because they have gone through it all too.
You are not alone anymore, you really are amongst friends here, crikey they even have meets from time to time.
Maybe here you will learn this is where life really begins! You just never know!
You take care.
Kind regards
Debra

Listen I have been married 34 yrs most of it happily, until I discovered 3yrs ago my wifewas having an affair and its been downhill since then, I know it is devastating but you wiil recover its a totall natural reaction.

My wife wants out but can't really define why, go figure.
I've felt sick and alone since the day she dumped the news on me.
I feel for you!

we are here one thing you are not and that is alone.cyber hugs are very real and this community will support you.keep posting.

Hi S & S

it is incredible how people you love and who you think love you can do the most incredibly hurtful things.

If we're on here the chances are we've all been betrayed in some way. i certainly was and the feeling was life a knife in the heart.

You will get through it but it does hurt like hell.

PP x

Tell me about it, spend half of your adult life looking after and supporting them and suddenly you're not good enough and traded in for a younger model or just dumped because they "want to get on with their lives", how to make a person feel good. However, it also makes a person fight at least for a roof for the kids and i'm determined to make a new life wihout the stbx.

J

Might re-think the bitterandtwisted, people keep saying its negative and i'm trying to be positive.