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Hi,
New to this, my name is Steve, I am nearly 45 and I have been married for 8 and a half years to my wife Jacqui; we have 2 adorable kids (most of the time) and I can't believe I am facing divorce!
We live in Heswall on the Wirral and we live very comfortably although I must admit we may have overstretched ourselves with a large mortgage but it seemed to be getting a little easier and probably now could afford a holiday every year.
My wife and I have been going through difficult times for the last two years or so; although our friends and family would all be shocked of the news that we begin to embark on divorce. The thing is we get on most of the time except we do not have a physical relationship. Not a thing I want to happen but my wife says she simply doesn't love me in that way anymore. I get the "I love you like a brother" stuff which is not what you want to here when you meet and fall in love with someone.
Doesn't matter how you dress it up, being rejected plays such a roller coaster with your emotions and ego that you go through the lot, distrust, jealousy, anger, bitter with bits of positive feelings for the future like dating, getting smashed with your mates, getting a fantastic car, doing great stuff with the kids, meeting new people, looking up old friends, developing career prospects and making lots of money. I am trying the latter rather than the first bits!
Anyway just a little about me, I definitely have much mixed feelings to what lies ahead; I just hope that we all can come out at the other end without too much pain. We at least agree on one thing that our kids are the most important thing I hope though the second and third most important things don't get in the way!

hi, steve and welcome to Wiki, you will find lots of support and information here to help you cope in this stressful time of your life.
keep things amicable with your wife as it really does make it so much easier for all concerned, especially the children.
I hope you find a few friends here along the way.
take care
dawn

hi ste

welcome here

im quite new to this site but have found everyone very supportive

Hi Steve

You sound like you are coping amazingly well and although it is tough, you will get through this

Maysie

hi steve

I am new too. I think that the point you made about friends and family being shocked has hit a chord with me.

This week i have started to tell friends and the sound of shock in their voice or the look on their face has been hard to deal with.

Like you from the outside we had it all.. following a payrise two years ago which allowed us to get a bigger house, cars holiday etc.. but little or no physical relationship.

The range of emotions swing on a daily/hourly basis but i have found by tapping into this network and sounding things out with the other wikis and reading other peoples tales it has put some perspective on things.

so welcome.

Hi Dawn,

Thank you for your message, I found it very reassuring. Had a very good chat tonight with my wife tonight and I feel really good that we can make it through our divorce. I still find it hard to accept it but I know it would be much easier if I do.

Anyway how are things with you?

Kindest regards

Steve

Hi,

Love this website the support is very good and it helps; there are so many nice people willing to offer their advice and support.

Steve