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Hi , not really sure what to write here .been married for 8 years but with my wife for 18 years in total, have two boys 16 and 11 great kids both of them.have been trying for a third child for about 5 years but to no avail 9 months ago decided to have 1 attempt at ivf which failed.within 2 weeks of the results my wife totally changed basically forcing me to leave the familly home to try and give us a break. My wife brought up everything from our past that i had done which ranged from not buying an iron for her in our first year together (17 years ago) to blaming me for not wanting a second child 1 year after our first was born (however my wife did actually mis carry in between our to children.Over the three months that followed so many things happened that were designed to make me leave and worked.After three weeks away and almost begging to go back and to try and work things out i went back but within 2 weeks we agreed it was nt working and that we would split and sorted out most of the things regarding finance etc.The following day she decides to tell me that she has found someone else who was also married who has worked with her for twenty years (his wife later told me they went to our wedding)I was am still am absolutely devastated and cant see any future , have nt spoke to her since but have seen her in car etc.
Sorry to ramble on but i really needed to get that off my chest , loads off things happened during the last 6 months with hindsight are so obvious and cant stop going over them in my mind .
Any way i guess that means i am now introduced

hi bosch,
welcome to wiki.
we have all felt the same things your feeling. its crappy, but you do get through it.

you will find lots of practical advice and support.

if you fancy a chat in the lonely times come in chat and will have you smiling in minutes. oh and u can have a rant too if u need it.

look after yourself, make sure you eat and get as much sleep as you can. the early days are the worst.

hugs to you.

mish

thanks for taking the time to reply , its nice to know that there is somewhere you can go to chat to people that have already or are going thru the same as you,

cheers bosch 67

Hi Bosch

Just to echo what mish has said - there are plenty of people here in the same (or similar) boat as you, so there si plenty of support and help here for you. You are NOT alone, so pop nto wiki whenever you can/need - I don't know where I'd be if I hadn't found this place

Take care

Sun

Hi Bosch

This is an awful time right now, and the forum is a great place to let off steam, sort out the financial side, have a laugh or in my case, keep moaning, it is also true that in time it will be easier.

Take care

Joy

thanks guys for all your replies it really is much appreicated.how long does it take before it stops totally consuming every minute of the day

in my expereince, a long time.
BUT, long before that, Wiki starts occupying your thoughts quite a lot !
And, therefore, you get a lot of support, advice, etc.
Regards,
Techy.