What happened there then?

Lordy... 30 years! I was with my x for only 7. I say 'only' but I was very much in love with him. He was 'it' I, at least, got married for all the 'right' reasons. So it wasa hugely important relationship for me. Your question 'why?'... perhaps you could ask him? Maybe to hear some sort of answer ... not necessarily be the one you want to hear, but may give some peace. My life is so much better now than the life I had with my x... and better than the one I had before then even BUT divorce is the singular most traumatic thing we can go through. My father was gravely ill, and eventually, died whilst all this was going (the discovery of the affair).. and yet I still feel the divorce and the way my x treated me was the worst thing ever. Isn't that awful. I have forgiven the x for running off with the skank (as we uncharitably but with much glee) call her. But I can't forgive the way he treated me, lied and cheated and even thru the divorce proceedings refused to give me anywhere near the settlement I was entitled to. I finally gave up fighting - tried to find the money to keep my home from elsewhere... and from the moment that happened I started to recover.
They say what doesnt kill you makes you stronger - but, honestly, what a way to learn!!! :-0

The big question why. Three little letters but mean so much. I know the why in my case. But it can be hard to work out. It was for me. Part of the why is that some people are just bad to the bone. They cant stay faithful. They think the grass is greener and they usualy come to grief. Just be glad you got rid of the sad bastard before it was too late to rebuild your lives. When is too late? Never. C

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Ha Ha Marsh, sad bastard is right, Oh i know why, couldnt keep it in his trousers thats all, and yea they think the grass is greener, but in his case, it wasnt the grass!, cake and eat it more like! He wanted to stay, says he felt sorry for her, nasty husband!!!!! but he didnt bank on his little tart texting me to tell me, was he in shock? I threw him out! Now she has him, but does he really want her? she will never know, WHO he would have chosen had she waited. So i say she did me one huge favour. So maybe the word isnt WHY? but maybe HOW? Its the shock of thinking you know someone after all those yrs!!

Anyway he's nearing 60, not so much dosh as thought, and very sad, full of regrets, cos he tells people. So who do you think is having the last laugh? The odd tear? well not many now.