36 Years and out

hope you are well
just checking if you feel better than before ?
hope you sorted living accommodation out now to give you time to get to know yourself again.
it took me years to sort my head out as i thought i was at fault all the time

life is a learning curve and we get the curve ball every now and then to test us
its how we deal with it
hope you feel better ?
time,s the healer is true
stay strong

Hi,

Thank you for checking up on me. Actually life has improved as I am in a new relationship which was and still is very unexpected but glorious. Unfortunately, the divorce aspect of life is still ongoing and trying to sort out finances so I am living with my sister as I am not in a position to finance a place on my own yet which is not great, but at least I have a roof over my head.

I suspect there will be hiccups along the way in my life, but I have decided to try and enjoy happiness when I have it and to worry about other things as and when they occur, not always easy to do but on the whole I can say I am happy. I am glad you seem to be in a good place now, with regards to fault, I totally accept that I was not the perfect person but I am refusing to accept all the blame for the collapse of my marriage, ultimately my husband chose to end this despite asking to try and sort things out so it is definitely not all my fault. Tbh if he hadn’t left after 10 years in pursuit of a younger woman we might have stayed the course but I suspect that episode has probably always been in my subconscious so I possibly withdrew from the marriage after this, I should never have let him return but hindsight is a wonderful thing lol

Hi,

Long time since I was on here, I just wondered how you are doing? I am now officially divorced but still confused as to how things ended as they did, but that will probably always be the case. Living in a Wales in a residential park home and working part time. I have a seven month old puppy and life is ok, some days it is good but usually it is ok. pension sharing nearly sorted so ex will be out of my life for good which I good and sad in equal measure. Hoping all is well with you x

Hi
Glad to hear that you're well and now settled ?.
A dog too great loyal friend
Will help you with anxiety and good to get outside on walks with exercise good for the brain.
Time is the only healer I'm afraid.
My divorce is near onto absolute decree bit now .waiting on confirmation then it's all complete ?time flies
Just makes me feel old lol.
I believe life is planned so its meant to be? X

I haven’t been on here for a while. Hope things are going well. I am still waiting for the pension sharing order to go through but otherwise doing ok. Still not 100% and probably never will be, having counselling but not sure it helps. I need to change but don’t know how to. I struggle to make proper friends, I have a lot of people who are friendly but just use me, my fault I know but how do you change after so many years? I am trying to do things, joined a golf club which I do enjoy but I just don’t feel I fit anywhere lol, I need to accept me but I don’t like particularly like me, which is pretty much how others feel so not on my own 😂 😆

Hey I'm sorry, going through a divorce is not fun. But remember one thing, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel. No matter what, you'll be okay.
I'm going through a similar situation and its hard, its not where I, or probably you, imagined I would be at this time. But having a romantic partner is not the most important thing in your life. What's important it your happiness with yourself. It will take time but you will feel it soon.