HOW DO I DO THIS???????

I WANT TO GET AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND. SINCE HE'S STARTED HIS BUSINESS AND BECOME SUCCCESFULL HE HAS MORE AND MORE FORGOTTEN ABOUT HIS FAMILY. EVERY WEEEKEND HE IS OUT DOING SOMETHING GOLF ETC. EVERY NIGHT HE IS EITHER ON THE COMPUTER OR FALLING ASLEEP IN FRONT OF THE TELLY. WE HAVE BOTH BEEN MARRIED BEFORE AND HAVE CHILDREN, BUT NONE TOGETHER. I HAVE FOR SO LONG TRIED TO TALK, SCREAM, ARGUE, WRITTEN LETTERS TO HIM, BUT HE NEITHER HOT NOR COLD. IVE TRIED ASKING HIM TO PLAY GOLF TOGETHER BUT HE DONT WANT THAT.
I AM SO ALONE AND SCARED, AND I COME FROM ANOTHER EUROPEAN COUNTRY. I JUST WANT TO GO HOME TO MY FAMILY.
I'M ONLY 40, I LOOK AFTER MYSELF AND THINK I STILL LOOK GOOD. I'VE TRIED DOING MY OWN THING IN THIS MARRIAGE, BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT MARRIAGE IS ABOUT, ITS ABOUT BEING TOGETHER (I KNOW-NOT ALL THE TIME) BUT JUST SO WE BOTH KNOW THAT WE ARE LOVED. AM I REALLY THAT OLD FASHIONED??
HE SAYS TO ME WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT??? YOU HAVE A BIG HOUSE, BIG CAR, ENOUGH MONEY. BUT ALL THAT IS JUST "THINGS" DOES NOT DO ANYTHING FOR ME. I WORK PART TIME, DO EVERYTHING IN THE HOUSE, AND EVEN THEN HE DOES NOT APPRECIATE IT JUST MOANS IF HIS DINNER IS NOT SERVED TO HIM. YES... HE HAS IT SERVED.
I AM NOW CHANGING THINGS, AS I DO NOT TIDY UP AFTER HIM, NOR SERVING HIS DINNER, AND HE HATES IT.
I DONT WANT THE HOUSE, NOR DO I WANT ANYTHING IN THE HOUSE, ONLY WHAT'S PERSONNAL TO ME. SOMEBODY PLEEEESAE GIVE ME SOME ADVISE.

Hi MIll,
welcome to wiki.
I know you say that you just want out.But take sometimes to think before you leap.
How long have you been married?
When did he start his business?
What has been your input in the business?
I felt exactly how you are feeling at the beginning .
I was going to walk away from everything to teach him a lesson.
I am glad my family and friends persuaded me to think otherwise.
I would have played right in his hands.
Money is not everything but pride does not pay the bill.
What ever you decide to do ,we will support you but go about it the right way.
keep posting ,you will get a lot of help and advices here.
take care

Hi there and welcome to wikivorce,

if you post yup what marriaa has mentioned im sure someone will be able to help you, as we have all experienced hardships and various different situations with marriages and the complications surrounding them

remember you are not alone in delaing with this and there are many kind and helpful people on here

best wishes

button x

Hi there. This is great you answer so quick.

We have been together 10 years, married just over 4 years, he has had his business for 6 years. We have timeshare abroad, enough money, basically everything a girl "could want" so why am I not happy? I used to laugh and have fun, now I can't even be bothered to get out of bed half the time.
As I said i've tried, i've tried for 10 month now. I work in his business but have no shares or anything.
He goes out with his mates, when I ask to come along I am just being given the excuse "sorry just for boys" We dont do anything together, on holiday there is always either the kids or his friends that come along. With the result that i've now refused to go on holiday all together.
He is that sort of person that if I don't do what he wants, he stops talking, and will not talk to me for days on end. Oh dear, I can carry on and on. I can't see any other way than to just call it a day before I go crazy. I've got to think about my 2 girls (17 & 14)

mill,
i am in the bath.
i will have a think and pm you later
take care

Hi there,
I am in the same boat, my husband has changed so much since he got his new job, he has lost all interest in anything i do, and the same as yours all he wants to do when he is home is to play golf and be with his buddies.
I was of the thought just to leave, but think hard b4 you do.
You may not have put finances like he has into it, but you have been there no doubt like i have, wanting and needing things to change, dont sell yourself short honey.

Money isnt everything like you say, and if i could have back the life i had b4 the new job, i would grab it with both hands.

But in this life, you have to think of yourself from time to time, and make sure you will be ok, its not your fault so dont just go, and let him get away without a scratch.
He is the one thats changed, why should you walk away with nothing?
There are people here to help.

Be strong....

I know it sounds really silly to a lot of people. But I just want to go quietly, as long as I get my dog, my cat, and a few things that has been in our family for a long time. He can keep the furniture and the posts and pans. He can pay me out the house, and I will go home to my family (scandinavian country)

I am quite prepared for what is coming, but as long as I have my family I know I will be OK. But it will be very difficult. Why is it that some people forget what they promised when they got married, for better for worse and all that. I really meant every word, guess I was wrong. I'm not trying to change him, nor do I change myself for him. I think he should play golf, as long as he spends time with me on other nights. I don't think anybody should have to ask to be kissed and loved....!