New user-need someone to talk to

Yes I know but sometimes it just all gets too much to take it all in and I wander about thinking too much and end up making myself worse. Once i find a job it will help cos then I can start to get back on my feet.

Thanks for that, only got sis to talk to at min and she hated him anyway therefore she cant understand why i get upset but I need to talk about him and how I felt and to a certain extent still feel about him although most of the time I hate him with a vengenance for ruining my life.

You say he has ruined your life. It feels like that now but if anything he has ruined your past. Your life is infront of you now, it's in your hands.

No matter how horrible ( you only have to read some of the stories on here to realise how horrible some people are ) your partner was or is you loved him. That will not go away over night.
It's very hard for people who have not experienced the pain of a relationship breakdown to understand just how much it hurts. It's all consuming, you cannot think of anything else. You cannot just get over it. It takes time and an understanding ear. How much time is different for everyone but it will be less with the right support.

Tell your family you understand their point of view but rightly or wrongly you did what you did but now your hurting and you need them. It's so hard asking for help, it makes us feel vulnerable but if they care for you they should put their feeling to one side and give you all the support you need.

Keep calling into chat, sometimes when it's busy i know it's hard to be heard but please keep trying, someone will see your messages and they will listen and offer advice and support.

Take care

Dawn x

something that worked for me was typing how i felt on my laptop. I thought i might send it to my ex when we were finally divorced but i deleted it a while ago as it had served its purpose. i realised that my ex just cannot see my point of view so wouldn't understand what I had written.

i didn't want to talk about it with others actually it was just reliving it. but i did talk to a counsellor which was better as she wasn't emotionally involved.

it will get better. i felt pathetic to start with but there is an inner strength that will come through - because it has to. i have grown and learned in the 8 months ex and i have been separated and he has just packed up his emotional baggage and moved it in with new girlfriend.