Feeling so sad after divorce

Divorce is a strange thing and I am still in the early stages, the first thing I did is get every memory of her out of the house. I have gone from loving and adoring her to totally despising her.

After 15 years together she has refused to speak to me since she walked out because I was surplus to her requirements. She refuses to engage a solicitor and will not discuss finances.

Yet, I had a letter from the solicitor to say that he had filed the divorce petition and I was totally destroyed. It would be nice to get to the other end and do as you have and wish each other well. I think that''s better than having hatred and will allow you to move on a lot quicker.

Hope your good days outnumber the bad eventually they will all be good.

Hi Skyblue, thanks for replying - oh it''s so hard isn''t it? I do feel for you, the hurt and shock is enormous... It''s perfectly normal to be furious and I can relate to your anger as I too was incredibly angry for months, and this anger comes and goes. It resurfaced again recently, but I have realised that the anger is just pain in disguise. It''s easier to feel angry than to feel sad, hurt and rejected. But we also have to feel that sadness in order to heal. It has helped me to keep a journal of how I am feeling. You can really say whatever you want in there! I hope you start to feel betterr soon. It''s great that we can support each other through this horrible time.