Remortgage affodability

When the court decided you were going to help with her mortgage they would have been thinking this would be for a few months, not a few years. If she tries to take you to court now she may well find they decide she should now be paying all of the mortgage until it sells. Her solicitor - if she has one - will know this and won't want it going to court. She is just hoping you will be a mug and agree to pay more.

thanks for the advice. I hear so many horror stories about these things i assume the worst. In all honesty i just wanted out and gave her as much as i could upfront and swallowed it as told myself if was for my kids but seems me being nice it being taken for granted.

Yes. Unfortunately kindness is a weakness in divorce. Most of the horror stories don't arise from court orders; they arise from someone agreeing to something impossible after being put under an intolerable amount of emotional blackmail.

What I will always say to people in your situation is that your children have another adult parent who needs to take responsibility. It's not all on you to make sure they are housed, fed and clothed but for as long as you do so, the other adult won't lift a finger. They chose life as a dependent and don't want to give it up. The only way to ensure they do is to stand your ground, ignore the emotional blackmail and force them to stand on their own two feet.

In a worst case scenario if the other parent refuses to grow up and do that, the children can come and live with you.