Moving 2nd country after leave to remove granted

Hello all,

I no longer live in UK after being granted permission to remove my son ( age 10) from UK and live in Paris. ( 1 year ago ) .

I have just been offered an amazing job in UAE.

My son does see his father and I facilitate contact 2 weekends ( fri night to Sunday afternoon) per calendar month and shared school holiday contact.

I would be able to fly my son back to UK approx every 6 weeks for 5 days plus at any one time.
Also the schools in UAE have approx just under 3 months off from school for the summer holidays, which I would expect to bring my son back to UK for a majority. IF he wanted to go back.

My ex husband and I have a very strained relationship and I doubt he will just agree and give me written permission. ( which is required).

I have found on line he would need to apply to French courts if he doesn''t agree as that is where we currently live.

Obviously my son wants to live with me and my partner and our daughter but this will fall on deaf ears with my ex husband.

Does any one have any advice ????

My current court order does specify France. It also says in a subsection if contact isn''t made during school term time ( the 2 weekends per calendar month ) then I should make our son available for extra time during the school holidays.

We have joint parental responsibility.

I thank you in advance.

Isn''t it more important that your 10 year old sees his Dad regularly than you getting a new job? Your ex might agree to it but if he doesn''t my advice would be to let it drop. It''s not very reasonable moving someone''s child thousands of miles away from his Dad.

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

Hi ppplll

I can totally understand the attraction of the job offer, we all want to do the best we can for our families and, I''m guessing, the offer would be an enhancement to lifestyle for you.

However, Walnut makes a good point - moving to Paris is little more than an hour''s flight time and within reasonable access to the UK. UAE is a whole continent away. Geographically, this will bring different issues in contact between son and father. Then there are other factors to consider - cost of flights will be significantly higher; France has a similar culture to the UK, UAE does not.

In the end, you will do what you do but I would urge you to consider your son''s ongoing and future relationship with his father. I would also consider the need for stability at his age; moving around the world can bring rich experiences but it is often the adult who appreciates them rather than the child.

I know it''s probably not what you want to hear but wanting to live with mum whilst being in regular contact with dad is a different picture than wanting to live with mum and being 4,000 miles away from dad.

Shezi

Hi Shezi.

Thank you for your reply. I too totally agree with all you say.

It''s a really difficult situation, I always encourage their relationship. Always.
There is a bit more to the story without airing dirty laundry. If you see what I''m saying.

I have given up fantastic opportunities previously that would have been fantastic for both my son and daughter not to mention me & my partner but due to keeping contact in mind we didn''t grab the chance with both hands.

I now feel that I''m in a position that I can''t continue to not live because I have an ex husband. Without sounding selfish. My children come first before anything obviously. I know different people have different ideas on parenting and I too try to take that into consideration.
I feel seeing the world and all it has to offer is amazing and was in a similar situation when I was growing up.

I really do appreciate your advice and help.

Thank you again x