Advice needed

Afternoon

Just needed some advice and without being able to ask someone all these questions think I would have gone mad months ago.

EX still lives in family home finances going to court, but todays question is regarding kids.


He only ever has kids when I work doesn''t volunteer any other time so 3 or sometimes 4 days a week i work shifts so day and nights.
He has previously turnred up late or even not turned up preventing me from going too work and on one occasion preventing me from the opportunity for promotion.

He constantly threatens me with not looking after kids 5 mins before i go to work thus making my life a knightmare.

He has phoned my family saying im mentally unstable and need a break ....

Im not by the way just need to get away from him.

My dad has payed for a spa day for me to have some time out and guess what ex has refused to have kids again.

He is now stating he taking kids on holiday next weekend whilst im at work hes not provided me with any details , and i haven''t said yes im not happy about it .

My kids are only little youngest is 2 and is upset if i leave the room never mind being taken away for 4 days .

Question is there anything i can do to prevent him taking them ??

sorry for the long post would appreciate some replies.

Daisy

Hi there
If you only have a verbal agreement between you then if you are the primary carer then you just say your not happy and don''t agree to it. If there is a court order in place then it''s a different scenario. However, if you are relying on him to look after the children whilst you are at work then just be careful how you deal with it. I would certainly not let my ex take the children if I was not being given details of where they were going. These are just my thoughts and through recent experience assume that this would be the case.