Acceptable drop off times

Evening

would appreciate any response/opinion/ advice

STBEX is being difficult every step of the way ...no surprises there.

still under same roof at the moment I have suggested a parenting plan he''s ignored me.

Whilst trying to work out maintenance he states that hes been advised that children under 5 years old would have to stay over at his before my work shift as 7 am is too early for them to be dropped at his .

children are 8,4 and 2 are normally up at 6 am and are used to me going to work at that time.

Is this correct ? or is he just being awkward to avoid paying maintenance ?

just to add I only work 3 days /nights a week so potentially 1 too 2 days in week would be early drop off at his anyway.

Thanks

Daisy

Big difference between being up at 6am and being dressed and had breakfast ready to leave the house to be dropped off somewhere.

Plus it would be extra stress for you.

Surely it makes sense foe all of you if they stay with their Dad the night before if this is possible?

Plus if he wont accept the early drop off where else will you take them and how much will it cost you in child care?

Hi thanks for the reply

Believe me they are fed and dressed before I leave normally so it would just be drop off little one is at nursery which I pay for and older 2 at school

my mornings are chaos at the best of times wouldn''t really make much difference.

Daisy

Think its prefectly reasonable for dad to have overnight contact rather than insist small children have to get up at 6am. Just because they get up that early at present doesnt necessary mean it right.


As wycliffe states how will you manage it dad doesnt agree to 7am drop off?

My two grandchildren were dropped off at about 6.45 at my house in their pyjamas by their mum for about eighteen months. They were slightly older 9 and 5 at the time than your children. They got showered and changed into their school clothes and had their breakfast at my house. My husband then took them to school. I think if mum had showered them, dressed them and fed them before the drop off, it would have been very hard on the children.

Personally I think it is a good thing for fathers to have their children overnight, especially if your ex. is requesting this, as shared care does benefit the children. It may be that your ex. will want to have the children overnight more than one or two nights, as many fathers want to be involved in the care of their children for 50% of the time. child maintenance payments can sometimes hinder parents making the best arrangements for their children.

Thanks for the replies.


I really don''t have a problem with kids having over night contact with their dad. I encourage them to spent time with them its his choice not too unless its trying to agree to maintenance payments.

I may have to consider the dreaded ( for me ) night shifts permantely to ovoid any early morning confusion. Then hes in for a surprise hes never got up once with the youngest one ...


Daisy

Confused why would night shifts be better? Or would you not need him then?