exwife coaching the children to show disinterest

Well people another botched up evening ..went to see my kids today
At afterschool activity.
Kids ignored me ...spent most of the Time ,ignoring conversation with me
And only staying with ex ,s new boyfriend .

Usually when I get the , ignored routine ..my contact on Thursdays fail.
Due to the children being told not to speak to me.
Great to see ex partner acting disgraceful , and forgetting her responsibility to her children..definitely a case of impaired judgment. Never can understand why individuals persue the approach of the ruin the bond , very lame indeed.

As I said exwife with her new boyfriend never wishing to give no contact out .
Shame this turn a blind approach goes on .

How can dads be involved when ,they have to openly deal with a person ,who cares Not gor a child emotional welfare ,these bluffers make me laff. Doing a kid over with the '' " ain''t seeing your dad today ".

My kids won''t get a choice ...just mums knows best " you gotta be kidding surely"
Don''t understand why primary carer ,be honourable stick to there work on contact ,and not sidetracking once they get themselves a new boyfriend ..absolutely low quality .

hang in there buddy...I am in the same boat...its seems one of those situations that there doesn''t appear to be a great deal that we can do to improve things...how are you coping with it all?

Well contact has come to a grind now , sick to back teeth going to the home on contact days and no one there , and primary carer blatantly ignoring her responsibility. Phone calls similarly stopped ..get straight to answer machine and never get calls or texts responded. We all know kids are very impressionable ,so I doubt very much this is of there own doing.
How am I doing ,I am very hard working ,and keep myself occupied as such .i just think this is the way it is . I feel it quite sneaky the failure each week them either not being there . This is very bad ethics .. A little bit of weekly contact and there would rather stick there head in the sand , and show no accountability for there actions .lol
Part of child contact is seeing them regular , but how can I when I am sent packing by , primary carer with low quality approach to child proceedings.
I should not have to bleat on , this person should comply , to ensure no Hardship incurred to children , obviously only thinking of themselves . And easily forgetting there roles
And responsibility .
I have had few comments explaining the way forward ..is court and so on .
Think it is absurd people failing all the time ...kids don''t benefit from minimised contact . I guess over a long period they would be unhappy and dissatisfied.
At end of the day primary carer holding all the cards .. Nothing new you hear about this letdown regularly .
Will just let her carry on making a fool of herself...it is truly laughable what there idea of equal shared parenting .
Think she just wants all the contact for herself.
Diggingdeep

My kids are adults,so decide for themselves about Twonk,one sees him,one does not,but I never made an issue about not seeing him,rather I encouraged it,despite his shortcomings.
I absolutely detest that some parents use the kids as pawns in a game,this is not a game,and whilst she may have moved on,New man around and attempting the Happy family lark,you still need your kids,and they need you...

Personally I would threaten court action,and remind her that you are still contributing to the household by way of payments for the kids,maybe shake up her little bubble..

Although that''s me,and you have to do what is right for you

Xx

Think It all stems from when her new boyfriend came on the scene ..before that I had decent contact on the weekend / go and do stuff .
Now they don''t seem bothered about contact and never hear from them . The ex says its nothing to do with her " and kids have made there own minds up " . Which is not the case .
One Parent ..glorified and the other denigrated you mean surely .
No point she is hostile ...doubt that would remotely bother ..few weeks later she would just revert to contact obstruction...it is what she knows best .
A bit concerned new boyfriend is going along with this type of attitude . " anything for an easy life I guess " .
A bit embarrassing..she cannot see fit to do the "right" thing ..just seems to ply duplicity ..in the name of kids best interest .
" waiting for her to sort herself out "
No point trying to imply im doing correct approach to child contact ,when your blagging it all the way . All she / they are doing is repeatedly highlighting themselves .

Diggingdeep