Ex wife going back full time asking me to do more.

Ok so with my job i work away for 6 months of the year and the ex-wife works part time Monday-Wednesday.
I give child maintenance and i have my daughter for 2 out of the 3 weeks i am home over a long weekend and the occasional weekday night pick up after school and dropping her off at her mothers.

My ex has now just wrote to me saying she is going back full time (conveniently after Decree Absolute and basing all our finances on her working part time during the settlement i may add) and is asking me to commit to more pick-ups after school. I live 30 mins away from her school in a car so more travelling for me.

Where do i stand on this, the reason i ask is because last time i was at work i got delayed and the ex-wife accused me of staying at work on purpose as it disrupted her holiday and loads of mud slinging from her and her family.

My job is pretty steady but it does have times where i would be delayed or maybe i would need to do some overtime, hence i'm reluctant to commit to anything as she will throw it back in my face if i get delayed.

I love my daughter to bits but i don't want to tie myself down in knots just so she can get on with her job.

Advice please...

I guess you can either agree to it and come to a compromise between the two of you which may also involve her having to foot the bill for some child care - or go to court if you are so inclined and nothing to do with childcare has been decided as part of the Consent Order. Perhaps a little hint at trying to reduce any maintenance for her at the same time may do 'the' trick.

MattSmy wrote:

I guess you can either agree to it and come to a compromise between the two of you which may also involve her having to foot the bill for some child care - or go to court if you are so inclined and nothing to do with childcare has been decided as part of the consent order. Perhaps a little hint at trying to reduce any maintenance for her at the same time may do 'the' trick.

It's not so much the maintenance its more the fact that sometimes i get delayed at work and yes i may do some overtime now to pay my own bills off following the divorce.
Hence i'm reluctant to commit to anything official tbh as i know she'd use it against me down the line if i couldn't do it.