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Children 12.1k topics

Divorce can have a big impact on children. Discuss approaches for communicating with your children and ways to maintain the normality in their lives.
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	Child Support 1610 topics Here you can discuss all aspects of child support, including child maintenance issues and your experience of the Child Support Agency.	Re: Child Support / Company Car by WYSPECIAL 13 Jul 25
	Contact and Residency 6637 topics Who will the kids live with and how often will the non-resident parent see them? Here you can discuss parental responsibility, residency and contact.	Parenting after divorce - shar ... by PADSstudy 04 Jun 25
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	Child Court Hearings 1166 topics Child Court Hearings	Re: Enforcement Order Appeal by WYSPECIAL 21 May 25
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	Child Maintenance Clinic 517 topics This forum area enables members to interact with consultants from the government's child maintenance options service. Unfortunately, they will not be able to answer any specific questions on individual CSA cases.	Re: paying maintenance once child ... by NeedhelpDad 04 Sep 25

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section 41 appointment I have been told by my solicitor that I need to go to court for a section 41 appointment to discuss child access. I have lots of contact with my eldest child as ... 19 Nov 08, by boston Latest 19 Nov 08 by IKNOWNOW	Replies:2 :468	Latest by IKNOWNOW 19 Nov 08
will my kids come round hi guys, im going through a divorce hopefully all sorted by feb next year however, my kids have sided with my ex we have been apart for 5 months now, no matter ... 24 Oct 08, by street_hawk Latest 19 Nov 08 by mcnaughty1 1 2	Replies:11 :1189	Latest by mcnaughty1 19 Nov 08
CSA help and advice My STBX pays an amount of maintenance which he chooses and says he will not increase it. This is paid weekly to me and is at least £100 less a month than it sh ... 18 Nov 08, by fluffy76 Latest 19 Nov 08 by Angel557	Replies:1 :543	Latest by Angel557 19 Nov 08
What are the chances of my husband geting custody My husband filed for divorce and wants to get custody of my kids so that they can live with him after the divorce. I am extremely affraid that this will happen ... 15 Nov 08, by ajs001 Latest 15 Nov 08 by angelsmum	Replies:6 :849	Latest by angelsmum 15 Nov 08
Desperate for help Hi Can anyone offer me some advice? The basic facts are separated 2 1/2 years ago - Still not divorced - 3 children - wife still lives in mari ... 15 Nov 08, by Wife_Wants_The_Lot Latest 15 Nov 08 by NellNoRegrets	Replies:1 :440	Latest by NellNoRegrets 15 Nov 08
how do i tell the children (4&6) I moved out of the marital home on thursday collected my kids from school and have moved in with my mum and dad. the kids think it's a holiday how do i tell the ... 15 Nov 08, by cloudy_mountain Latest 15 Nov 08 by cat66	Replies:2 :502	Latest by cat66 15 Nov 08
Specific Issue Order... My STBX and I cannot agree on Christmas Day arrangements. It's petty and pathetic I know. Can he take out a Specific Issue Order regarding this matter? ... 08 Nov 08, by fluffy76 Latest 08 Nov 08 by saffron1968	Replies:1 :511	Latest by saffron1968 08 Nov 08
csa is taking me to court need help soon hi im on invalid benefits for 5 years getting less than £100 a week i was paying csa money while working never defaulted from 1994 to 2000 then i went on to st ... 07 Nov 08, by csavictim2008 Latest 07 Nov 08 by Angel557	Replies:5 :725	Latest by Angel557 07 Nov 08
Child Maintenance payments Does the NRP have to pay child maintenance on the weeks when HE has the children for summer holidays? Also, My stbx currently pays 15% for 2 children a ... 02 Nov 08, by fluffy76 Latest 02 Nov 08 by hawaythelads	Replies:3 :614	Latest by hawaythelads 02 Nov 08
Form D8a - help Hi I am divorcing my husband on grounds of adultery and we have 2 children. They are staying with him and I am happy for that to continue, as he works ... 02 Nov 08, by lb2605 Latest 02 Nov 08 by D L	Replies:1 :511	Latest by D L 02 Nov 08
The marital home and its significance in residency I have posted this thread on the general divorce forum too.. I have read and heard reffered to the term marital home and am wondering on how its import ... 29 Oct 08, by unsureineed	Replies:0 :448
Child Support - Company Car Allowance Does anyone have any experience of how to stop one's company car allowance being considered as income, and therefore not being used for the child support calcul ... 23 Oct 08, by goat Latest 27 Oct 08 by K1972 1 2	Replies:10 :2228	Latest by K1972 27 Oct 08
want to try and get my child's custody from abroad HI To all, I am in a real prediciment and would appreciate any help whatsoever I married a women from kenya in 2003 we had a child in the UK in 200 ... 25 Oct 08, by ali123 Latest 25 Oct 08 by Fiona	Replies:1 :528	Latest by Fiona 25 Oct 08
ex wants to emigrate with child my ex wife wants to emigrate to australia with my 4 year old son.i have regular contact with him and play everything straight and this has come as a real shocke ... 25 Oct 08, by Bob999 Latest 25 Oct 08 by Fiona	Replies:2 :770	Latest by Fiona 25 Oct 08
is this really fair?! Is this really fair??????? Is it right to put a 3yrold in the middle? Brief run down as i dont want to bore you, any q's then fire away! S ... 08 Oct 08, by helpingmybf Latest 23 Oct 08 by tiredmum	Replies:4 :792	Latest by tiredmum 23 Oct 08
Advice re Child Support Agency. Hi, In divorce process, STBX moved out but is still paying mortgage until I find a job(2 Young kids) and I will pay him back all payments from my settlement ... 08 Oct 08, by fluffy76 Latest 21 Oct 08 by gettingadjusted 1 2	Replies:7 :1255	Latest by gettingadjusted 21 Oct 08
Separated and Ex wants youngest to live with him Hi I wonder if you could give me some advice please. I've recently separated from my husband. He would like to keep it amicable and wants us to not us ... 26 May 08, by Loblolly Latest 16 Oct 08 by goodmove 1 2	Replies:8 :1404	Latest by goodmove 16 Oct 08
Parental responsibility/social service arghghgh Had a visit from the Social Worker (both kids have autism). Asked what i needed, I said respite, and I will continue asking till someone listens. There is no on ... 05 Oct 08, by twinks Latest 15 Oct 08 by mcnaughty1	Replies:3 :493	Latest by mcnaughty1 15 Oct 08
what if the kids wont visit? I have a question which some of you may be able to help. i have a daughter 5 and son 2, my relationship with my son is rock, my daughter, she takes or leaves m ... 14 Oct 08, by Bobbinalong Latest 15 Oct 08 by mcnaughty1	Replies:4 :509	Latest by mcnaughty1 15 Oct 08
Sole custody On what grounds can I apply for sole custody. Children have no wish to have anything to do with father. What things do I need his consent for. ... 09 Oct 08, by cody girl Latest 12 Oct 08 by cody girl	Replies:5 :529	Latest by cody girl 12 Oct 08
can i stop my ex taking my children too wales i was not married but lived with my ex partner for 7 years and we have tow children aged 7 and 5, we have both moved on with new partners, but hers lives in wal ... 12 Oct 08, by Barney Rubbles Latest 12 Oct 08 by Alive_in_the_water	Replies:5 :831	Latest by Alive_in_the_water 12 Oct 08
Grumpy Teenage Son! Just thought I needed to get this off my chest! The children stayed at their mums last night as she is finally trying to keep to the 50/50 childcare split that ... 09 Oct 08, by Itgetsbetter Latest 09 Oct 08 by Poppie	Replies:2 :496	Latest by Poppie 09 Oct 08
At a complete loss Wondered if anyone had any advice, I have reached the end of all my ideas and don't know what to do any more. I have 2 daughters age 3 and 6. Their father a ... 05 Oct 08, by Bronte Latest 06 Oct 08 by fade2gray	Replies:4 :570	Latest by fade2gray 06 Oct 08
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self emplyed and child maintainance my x has 2 businesses in his name and jointly we pay the mortgage on the house that i am living in with our youngest son, he has said that if we sell the house ... 28 Sep 08, by lynzi Latest 28 Sep 08 by Angel557	Replies:2 :534	Latest by Angel557 28 Sep 08
hide divorce from kids recently split from wife , have 2 boys 4 and 8 , im sleeping at mothers and ex does not want to tell kids about split for a year ? is this right wrong or just w ... 25 Sep 08, by bobbydavro Latest 26 Sep 08 by Jollyrocket	Replies:5 :489	Latest by Jollyrocket 26 Sep 08
He stops them talking to me 6months ago when my husband moved out he bought my 9yr old a mobile phon ... 22 Sep 08, by lizzie65 Latest 24 Sep 08 by countrygal	Replies:1 :510	Latest by countrygal 24 Sep 08
how do I take the pain away? i'm sitting here with tears rolling down my face after a 30 minute talk with my 9 year old son. out of the blue he walked downstairs and told me that t ... 10 Sep 08, by loopy1 Latest 11 Sep 08 by loopy1 1 2	Replies:9 :1301	Latest by loopy1 11 Sep 08
Contempt! Hi - I've been feeling down today and if you have read my postings in the last few days you will have some idea why. The children's attitude towards th ... 10 Sep 08, by SadEyes Latest 11 Sep 08 by SadEyes 1 2	Replies:10 :1142	Latest by SadEyes 11 Sep 08
To my ex - on behalf of our Sons To my ex who is in denial about himself - to my boys who now have to deal with his crap instead of me. Maybe one day he will see this - along with the poem in ... 09 Sep 08, by SadEyes Latest 10 Sep 08 by SadEyes	Replies:5 :577	Latest by SadEyes 10 Sep 08
Residence order HI do i need to get a Residence order on my son. he lives with me but i having lot of probs with my ex? ... 04 Sep 08, by catheryne Latest 10 Sep 08 by catheryne	Replies:4 :671	Latest by catheryne 10 Sep 08
contact orders - residency orders Hi, just thought I'd share my experience of court residency and contact order stuff I am currently going through. I'm self repping by the way. ... 07 Sep 08, by is_he_breathing Latest 09 Sep 08 by marriaa	Replies:1 :591	Latest by marriaa 09 Sep 08
Daughter My daughter blames me for the seperation, not my fault at all. Not seen her for 5 weeks and not willing to communicate with me. She is 11 years old. 08 Sep 08, by saanroshni Latest 08 Sep 08 by Templar_unsubscribed	Replies:2 :523	Latest by Templar_unsubscribed 08 Sep 08
Kids and an angry father Hi, on behalf of a friend... She's leaving him, but because they can't afford to live in separate places they're sharing the marital home and taking tu ... 08 Sep 08, by markovandee Latest 08 Sep 08 by lillyanne	Replies:1 :707	Latest by lillyanne 08 Sep 08
Telling the Children about my new girlfriend All, your help most appreicated on this one. So here goes, I have been separated now for 9 months from my stbx, I have found someone that I am really happy with ... 02 Sep 08, by gettingadjusted Latest 02 Sep 08 by gettingadjusted	Replies:5 :705	Latest by gettingadjusted 02 Sep 08

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