Hello,
Thank you in advance for any advice or information received. Apologies also for the lengthy post.
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Decree Absolute has already been granted and a year later, we’re trying to conclude the financial side between us, before submitting to our respective solicitors to formalise and submit to Court.
We’ve agreed between us on a lump sum payment I’m to make to him however, when he sent me his D81, he’s then, without my knowledge, input a 50-50 share in my house which, he knows I bought outright when married with funds I had prior to marriage.
We didn’t discuss my house whatsoever, let alone agree anything regarding my house.
Also, without my knowledge, he’s input a very large sum for his debts and liabilities. He said these debts and liabilities will remain on the before and after part of the form. Again, I had no knowledge of these debts and liabilities until this form.
They are not joint debts and liabilities however, I know he’s lying about these and claiming falsely yet he persists he’s right.
His debts and liabilities consist of 4 years living expenses from living with his mother in the USA, although it can be proven he was only there half the time as he was working in another state the rest of the time. Further, the debts and liabilities include borrowing from his mother in order to purchase gifts for me, gifts which he attests were expensive and unnecessary. Again, I had no knowledge he was having to borrow for anything, let alone gifts.
Further, his debts and liabilities include a cattle feed bill. He has a cattle business is in the USA and he has a business partner too. This business never benefited the marriage whatsoever yet he puts this debt on his part of the form. He also says his cattle business interest is now negative…how convenient as he said prior to marriage the business was doing very well and growing exponentially.
He also said his mother has disinherited him as sole beneficiary to his estate because she’s angry with him for the divorce
Essentially, everything bar his military pension and social security either no longer exists or is in the negative/red post Decree Absolute but pre-settlement. How convenient.
I’m really concerned because I feel these debts and liabilities will show me as being in a better position financially and I’m worried the Judge will look to
offset his sole debts and order me to pay a share or receive less.
Also concerned that his false half share in my house will be agreed therefore meaning with that and the lump sum, he’ll receive far, far more than 50% overall.
He has a substantial lifetime military pension and lifetime social security which amounts monthly to way more than I earn and can earn.
I’m self employed and have no guarantee of work. I also won’t receive my state pension until 2036. To receive full, I must continue working and paying into until 2036.
He doesn’t have to work and, I’ve no other pension or income stream whatsoever.
He’s stating categorically that even though he’s input 50% of my house on the before part that I’ll receive/keep 100% of my house after and a Judge will agree to that! He’s also stating the Judge will agree to everything input on the forms as we’ve already agreed between us. However, I only agreed verbally to the lump sum to him, nothing more.
I’m concerned and confused in that if I’m to retain 100% of my house, why has he input a half share in the first place.
His sole debts and liabilities are well over inflated and in the main are absolute lies.
We were married just 5 years, no children. I’m 53 he’s 62. I’m a U.K. citizen, he’s American. We were enforceably separated after just 9 months of marriage because he was indicted in the USA on charges of bribery, conspiracy to commit bribery and honest wire services fraud.
I had absolutely no idea this was going to happen until NCIS knocked on my door to speak to him. He was enforceably returned to the USA two weeks later.
I now know that my ex knew he could likely be in future trouble before we married as the case doesn’t just involve him, it’s many others and the case was getting lots of media attention and on line. My barrister said that gross misconduct has definitely taken place here on his part.
My ex is awaiting sentence. He agreed to a Plea Agreement with the prosecution and US Department of Justice. I feel my ex is also trying to fleece me for an unfair amount in order that the settlement not only pays his fine and restitution but leaves him further money.
He’s also threatening that if I don’t agree to his figures and debts etc., he’ll not only see me in Court but that this will also leave me vulnerable to the US Department of Justice to chase me for his federal liabilities by placing lien on my house and funds.
If I agree and pay up then he won’t tell the US about my house and funds. The house was purchased outright by me and has been in my sole name from purchase.
I bought my house mid 2019, he was detained in the USA from March 2017 therefore, we couldn’t and didn’t live together as a husband and wife would normally do instead, he was allowed to visit me periodically for just 14 weeks in total over a 30 month period (from when I bought my house to separation/ my filing for divorce March 2021 yet, he still insists my house is the former
matrimonial home.
I just want rid of him but, given his figures on the form ie his half share in my house and his false debts and liabilities, I feel if I agree, I’m potentially agreeing to a hugely unfair share.
After his figures, he’s also showing as minus but has his substantial monthly military pension and social security.
I have my house and some savings that’s all. In just a few years, his monthly income equates to more than my house is worth.
He also has IRS issues and says that as he’s input all of his taxable income into the joint account (which closed immediately after separation March 2021) he’s holding me jointly and severally liable for his tax debts too.
He absolutely did not put all his taxable income into the joint account, which can be proved and, his working and earning in the USA throughout this period went into his own US accounts which can also be proved.
Due to all this, the diabolical marriage and repeated financial threats, I’m now suffering with anxiety and stress issues which affect me daily and my ability to work as much as I now need to.
I apologise for the lengthy post, believe me, I’ve tried to be as informative and concise as possible but, I could say much more about this lying, cheating ex of mine.
Thank you again.
