overnight stays and reduction in maintance

at the moment CSA not involved - husband is paying (amount he has decided) currently this is working out ok.
However recently my daughter came home and in coversation she mentioned if her dad had her 3-4 nights a week he would reduce the money he pays to £xxx. I think he may have shot himself in the foot by telling her this as (she is 10) she realises we need the money he gives us and we would struggle a lot if it was to reduce.
I work 26 hours a week, and have elderly mother to do things for. At the moment i cant get my full time hours back - i am receiving tax credits - so we have x amount of money coming and and we budget our lives around this. To all of a sudden reduce this would cause problems.
So looking ahead i decided to have a wee look at the CSA website and it does say that if there is 1 overnight stay a week then the NRP can have a reduction by 1/7th.
Her dad is wanting to take her for 2 weeks in school holidays so i suppose he could (if he wanted to) not give money for those weeks -

What i was wondering if im understanding this right.

for example dad pays 70 per week (10 per day)
mum gets child up in the morning, provides breakfast, takes to school and gives lunch money etc - pays for childcare after school picks child up takes home and gives them tea.
Dad then comes along picks child up for overnight stay.
Next day he gives breakfast and drops off at school.
Yet the dad in this example can get the weekly money reduced by 10 for the 1 overnight stay. Yet the mum has had to pay for childcare - school dinners etc.

have i understood this right. Or is there a bit more to this overnight stay and reduction in the money.

Just trying to get my head round things that could happen in the future - dont wish to rely too much on the money we get.

I remember one case where exactly that happened. The mother got the children already for bed in their pjs with teeth brushed, the father collected them and took them home to sleep 3 nights a week and then returned them in their pjs to get dressed, have their breakfast and go to school.

The way the CSA calculates payments is to add the number of overnights over the year and average them out. So for example if contact is 2 nights every other weekend plus half 12 weeks school holidays that would be a total of 88 nights a year or rounded up 2 days a week reduction.

I would tell your daughter to tell her dad if he reduces the money by 1/7th for every overnight she hopes he will pay proportionately towards her clothes, school trips, haircuts, transport etc etc You would probably be better off if he did than if he didn't reduce the money and you paid for everything.

Actually, whatever happens don't tell your daughter, she doesn't need to be involved in these discussions and it would make her feel as though she was unloved and abandoned. See the effect;


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