CAN ANYONE HELP OR ADVISE ME

Hi Im new to this so hope someone can answer my question. I seperated from my Husband over 3 yeaars ago. We had an aggrement through the solicitior that he was to pay child support on a monthly basis. Over a year ago i met my new husband who gets on great with my children and they see him as nothing more than a step Dad we have made it clear they have a Dad. We had to move to Spain 6 months ago due to my Husbands line of work. It was upsetting for us all. But we made the move. We did at the time make arrangements for the children to fly over and see there dad and made it clear if he made his way to the Benidorm area of Spain we would bring the Girls to him. He agreed the girls would have a better life. After the first monthe of being over in Spain he stopped there money and had made very little contact with them. Can he stop there money? I told him at the time its not that we needed his money as my Husband has a good job but i feel it would have kept him a wee bit of pride for himself for when the girls are older. Im not going to fight him for the money it would just be interesting to see if he is legally in the right to stop there money. He told that since they are not in the UK he doesnt have to pay. Any help on this would be great.

If you dont need the money then don't worry about it. Likewise if he is being a sensible Dad ten he will be putting it to one side to give to them when they are older.

He is probably feeling rejected as the children probably dont feel like his anymore. just my opinion but maybe wrong

He is wrong. If the agreement was documented in a minute of agreement it can be enforced.

Rather than the money aspect and whether it can be enforced (particularly as you've already said you don't need it) would it not be better to find out why, if he's not seeing the children, he's decided not to see them? Does he feel he's been pushed out of his childrens life and is no longer required?

Have you tried talking to him regarding that and leaving money out of the conversation?

T

Hi Everyone,

Thanks for all your help and comments. As far as asking there dad why he stopped there money he texted me and said as far as he was concerned if THEY were not in the uk as far as he was concerned he didnt have to pay for them I did reply and said to him its not the haveing to pay it should be you WANT to pay. And i know he is not putting the money away for them. I wouldnt want to enforce anything on him with courts etc i just wanted to find out if legally he should still be paying even though we are in Spain.

nicky70 wrote:

As far as asking there dad why he stopped there money he texted me and said as far as he was concerned if THEY were not in the uk as far as he was concerned he didnt have to pay for them I did reply and said to him its not the haveing to pay it should be you WANT to pay. And i know he is not putting the money away for them. I wouldnt want to enforce anything on him with courts etc i just wanted to find out if legally he should still be paying even though we are in Spain.

And the issue of contact with the children which is far more important in my opinion as a father?

The rating should be children first, money second as it looks more like he feels pushed out because it fits the family picture more with your new partner and have made it increasingly difficult for him to see the children whilst happily working out if the money issue can be enforced. To further add insult to injury you then state that you don't need the money and that he should want to pay it.

Why not suggest that this money rather than go where it's not needed goes into an account which he can use for travelling costs and call costs for him to remain in contact with the children?

T

I honestly dont want to get into a tit for tat situation. I only contacted this forum for advise. When we made the decision to move to Spain we made it more than clear we would return to the uk on several occasion and at anytime he could have contact. We have made 3 returns to the uk since February. We live 1 hour from Benidorm we told there Dad if he came over we would take the girls and return for them. He has just recently informed the girls after stopping the money that he has spent 1 week in Benidorm never once makeing contact with them. We have looked for flights for him at one time you could get flight for £5.00 one way but he never took the offer up. You are obviously going through a hard time as a dad but please do not slate everyone with the situation you are going through. My girls happyness is my upmost goal in life so please do not insinuate otherwise. Please feel free to comment further but only on things you know about. I shouldnt have had to at any time reveal my life story on this site i never once thought i would or i would never had contacted it. I only wanted a simple question answered and its turned into a circus. Please if anyone can answer my simple question i would appreciate it. many thanks NIKKI