Child Support in addition to maintenance

Hi again

Does anyone know if my D takes a case to court to try to get more aliment from me if the court will ask for details of my new wife's income to assess what I can afford to pay??

I'm worried about this as wife is adamant she will not agree. As previously said I have passed on information of my earnings and joint and individual expenses. I suggested it would be fair to pay half of joint expenses but as my wife now earns more than me would this be considered fair or would she be expected to contribute more??

Any help would be appreciated
Mike

Hi again

Does anyone know if my D takes a case to court to try to get more aliment from me if the court will ask for details of my new wife's income to assess what I can afford to pay??

I'm worried about this as wife is adamant she will not agree. As previously said I have passed on information of my earnings and joint and individual expenses. I suggested it would be fair to pay half of joint expenses but as my wife now earns more than me would this be considered fair or would she be expected to contribute more??

Any help would be appreciated
Mike

Your wife isn't responsible for financially supporting your daughter.

Is it not possible for you and your daughter to come to an amicable agreement between yourselves, rather than going through the courts?

Hi RubyTuesday

D has no contact with me and only communication is through solicitor (this was not my choice). i am already paying more than I should be to her mother who has consistently refused to make any adjustments to original minute of agreement despite us now having new partners and me having 2 step-kids to support. She is still refusing to adjust this even though eldest D is nearly 19 and at university. Don't have a problem paying maintenance but shouldn't have to pay twice. Have offered to pay some direct to eldest D but mother refuses to reduce the amount I pay even if only for other D.
have sent details of income and expenditure to her sol which shows that if i pay half of joint expenditure as well as what i am individually responsible for i.e. maintenance and petrol for my car then my income is used before accounting for food, clothing and car/house maintenance. My query is whether there would be an expectation for my wife to contribute more than half to joint expenses as her income is more than mine? It's fairly obvious from the figures that she does anyway but she is adamant she does not want to share details of her income with my D and ex so other query is will she have to?

Thanks, Mike

I feel very ignorant. I am interested in why this is considered paying maintenance twice. Surely you pay maintenance once and the additional payment is to support your daughter, who you clearly love and want the best for, in furthering her education. ie maintenance plus parental contribution to uni education. In the old days ( I am very old) pre student loan, before getting a grant, your parents' income was assessed and appropriate contribution set by the government. Is it not something akin to this that your daughter is asking for?

From what I understand you are either unwilling to/ can't afford to contribute. At which point you say "no I don't want you to go to Uni". If her mother has made her contribution, it is not up to her to supply the shortfall caused by her father's unwillingness/inability to pay. I am quite appalled by what another poster has said that LOTS of young people have to sue their father's for contribution to further education. Then again, given my children's father's behaviour perhaps I shouldn't be. There seems to be an underlying belief that you pay all your bills first and give the children what you have left over rather than making your children's needs your priority first and then adjusting your living standards afterwards.

I can't afford to pay more and you have no clue as to the history of the case. d lives with mother and her new partner and my other d. i have no contact with either d now as mother poisoned them against me as soon as they were old enough to get their own sols so she didn't have to pay for sols letters to stop contact. I already pay more than I should and have done for years, I'm not complaining about that but I should not have to pay money I don't have so d can have holidays is spain (just back), mum and partner can have new car every year, etc etc. Ds asking for more money per week than i pay for the 2 girls just for her. Given that her fees are paid, she has student loan, part-time job and her mother should be passing on money i pay her for eldest d then she will be better off than a lot of students. or am i supposed to live in poverty so she can live a life of luxury???? One of her expenses she wanted to claim was £80 per week for food - for 1 person!!!!!i only want what is fair and i'm getting a bit fed up with bitter people saying i should want whats best for d. Of course i do but part of what i would want is that she deals with people fairly, learns to manage her money and stand on her own two feet with some financial support from BOTH parents and not just me being expected to pay for everything.

Hi Mike

Do you think your daughter may be angry with you about something and trying to punish you by demanding money?

You say you haven't seen much of your girls, maybe they would like you to fight for them more? Maybe you could write them a letter.

Just a thought