What are my rights, X is like a financial spounge

Hello there,
I have been divorced for 5 years now, untill a month ago i had my eldest daughter (now 18) and she had the youngest (now 16)

The x works part time and i have paid maintanence for the youngest, which always seemed unfair as we both had a child each. Now she has both she wants maintanence for both of them.

The 18 year old will finish her 2nd year at college in July 2010 and is now talking about doing a 3rd year to avoid having to look for work, why should i have to keep paying maintanence when 2 of them could actually work full time (eldest and x)

From what i gather the csa can be involved because my x is claiming benefits. Where do i stand with all this? I can see things getting worse next month because ill be moving my partner of 3 years into my home.

Many thanks for any replies.

When you divorced did you have a formal financial Consent Order written up and agreed by the court?

If your daughters go out and work (assuming they can even find any) then they will have to give up their education. Do you really want this?

Sadie

I think we did have a settlement drawn up through mediation, even though i had one of the girls she still claimed all the benefits and child tax credit.
I dont want my eldest to give up college, i was just wondering when it gets to a cut off point of still having to pay (she could continue college for years?)
The only real agreement we have set in stone by the courts is a 20k charge on the house which im due to pay now.

I dont want it to sound like sour grapes, but i know what my x is like with money and credit cards, she will keep coming back asking for more maintanence when the money runs out.

If it is any concelation I would like to know when giving up their education stops and taking the p@@s starts?

Mullins wrote:

The only real agreement we have set in stone by the courts is a 20k charge on the house which im due to pay now.

Is she due to pay you? or you her?

T

nbm1708 wrote:

Mullins wrote:

The only real agreement we have set in stone by the courts is a 20k charge on the house which im due to pay now.

Is she due to pay you? or you her?

T

Im due to pay her