Cohabiting and th CSA

Although my STBX had set up child support, I felt that in the future I didn't want to have to contact him for anything, and knew that we were entitled to more, so decided to make arrangements through the CSA.
My initial phone call went well and they then said they would contact him to confirm information.
The CSA then phoned husband on his mobile, while at home. He then came through to the room I sit in, handed over his phone and said it was for me. After some security questions I realised it was the CSA (and not the OW), STBX followed me around while I was on his phone as he is obviously terrified I read any of his textsB)
The girl from the CSA then says, that as we live under the same roof, I cannot claim through the CSA:ohmy:

I then proceeded to tell her that (pantomime voice) 'Oh, Yes I can'. She then went to ask a supervisor and came back to find out our living arrangements. i.e. I do nothing for him, I only care/cook/launder/shop for my daughter and myself. We share rooms but don't sleep together and luckily enough, just that day my solicitory had sent me a copy of the court writ, so I emailed it to them there and then.

So please don't let the CSA tell you that you can't claim while cohabiting, it is utter tosh. I'm certainly not leaving my home just so the CSA can progress a claim. Just because my cheating STBX is a B****rd and won't leave the home is no excuse for me and my child to be treated differently, things are hard enough for us as it is.

Way to go Done!!

E

Very pleased to hear that Donelovin. That is another prime example of why you should keep at them and not meekly accept, Also applies to other agencies i find.

Well the latest is: they contacted S2BX and the lying STBX has said he shares the care for our daughter 50/50
He took her out to bowling on Saturday, spent total of 3.5hrs with her, this is the first he's spent time with her since before xmas.
The man has no shame at all, he took her home and left saying he wouldn't be home that night. How can that be 50/50 shared care. I am so upset by the fact he's getting away with it.
So could have got the full amount of cash but because of this will only get half of what we're entitled to.
Donelovin

You share a house, how can it be anything other than 50/50?

You seem to be more upset with the amount of cash than the amount of time he spends with the child, are you sure you have your priorities right? Just asking.

Well sorry if it came across that way I'm feeling rather upset.
My STBX is having an affair, refuses to give me alimony and comes and goes as he pleases. This may be a 'normal' marriage to some people but not to me.
He has lied for a year about this affair.
I am concerned about the money, because that is what makes the world go round. To feed me and my daughter for that fact.
He is spending weekends away in hotels with his ow. Never know if he's coming home or not, while my daughter sleeps on an air bed, because he won't leave the marital bed.
Shall I go on, or do you get the jist:woohoo:

It is nasty when dealing with a person who carries on an affair under your nose, I know it and wnet through it, my ex felt it was OK to entertain the man at the marital home.

But that has nothing to do with child contact or child support payments.

Wait a moment, you told us you shared rooms but don't sleep together...what did you mean, you don't 'do it' anymore but you still sleep in the same bed?

I take it that you are saying you ahve moved into daughters room and you sleep in her bed whilst she sleeps on the air mattress. Is that right? Can't you move the marital bed into daughters room and then at leat you can both have a bed and put the child's bed into the marital bedroom?

These things can drag on for years so you need to start sorting out the lving arrangements.