What happen if he refuse to pay child maintenance?

Well, basically I am finally in process with the divorce after 4 year living in an abusive relationship.

He have been threating me with avoid to pay child maintenance, between other threats related with my child custody or making my life miserable.

I am always willing to an amicable divorce, respecting his rights as a dad and access to our daughter and I am open to arrive to an agreement but obviously I am dealing with the wrong person as he only wants to fight and I am not willing to fight with him for financial support every month.

My interests are for the sake of my daughter and I want her to be happy and cover all her needs. My main concern is the nursery as my salary is £1550 per month and the nursery is £1200. I am not able to pay rent plus nursery, bills, etc for myself. If there any possibily to get some help with nursery costs.

And in case I will need to deal with him with child support, how it works?, is the cost of the nursery part of child maintenance??

His monthly NET. income is £4000aprox , He is self employee

How the child maintenance deals with self employees, as his net income can vary

God what a nightmare! I only hope this situation finish soon and promise to go to church and not marry again!

Thanks in advance for your help

Have you claimed Tax Credits? That will give your income a boost. You should be entitled to both Child Tax Credits and Working Families Tax Credits which pays up to 80% of childcare costs. Does your employer operate a Childcare Voucher scheme? It saves up to £800 on childcare a year but I do know that if you're claiming Tax Credits as well it can be complicated and I think (I'm no expert) that it generally works out better just to claim the Tax Credit. You would do well to go to your local CAB for a benefit check.

You may be entitled to some level of Housing Benefit and Council Tax Benefit - you will need to contact your local council to help with this. And if you haven't already, make sure the council know you are living alone as you get a reduction in council tax regardless.

It is not good news on the child maintenance front, I'm afraid. Under CSA rules, you should get 15% of his income after tax in child maintenance. If he doesn't want to pay/refuses to pay, you will need to contact the CSA and get them to do it for you. Be aware that they won't back date other than to the date they first contact your ex so you need to consider your options and do it sooner rather than later if he refuses to pay. However, self-employed people are very, very difficult to pin down for the CSA and you face an uphill battle if he digs his heels in and decides he doesn't want to pay. There are countless parents with care on this site who are experiencing this issue - myself included. 17 months later and my ex has made one payment only - and I am very lucky that he's a bit daft and put himself on a salary (albeit a low one) so he received an assessment and therefore he should be paying and the CSA are chasing him through his business. Most self-employed people don't get this far if they don't want to. Sorry not to be more positive on that one.

As for the threats around residence of your child and making your life miserable - pretty much par for the course in these situations and your best bet is to try and ignore it and get on with life. The more you rise to it, the worse it will get.

Thanks a lot for your advise, very helful.

Thanks god I will be moving soon and every day I found more solutions to keep strong.

(((((Shana)))))
What a nightmare situation. Sorry you're having such a bad time but as you say thank god you will be moving soon.

I hope you have friends and family to support you through the next phase of this. You have friends here now too who will guide you through each step of the way.

Do keep posting and let us know how it's going. Stay safe and take care of yourself and your little girl.

Mitchum xx

Hi Mitchum:

Well unfortunately I don't have family here, but I have a few good friends.

I know it is just starting but moving out will be much better, especially for the sake of my daughter. I am very glad I found this lovely flat. I am not going to deny I worry about the future but I always try to go over my fears.

I just don't think I will dare to get married again!

Are you divorced or considering?

Take care

xxx

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