Consent Order and Change of circumstances

I wish she saw it that way. Unfortunately it seems I married an opportunistic, deceitful, manipulative, bully of a woman.

How blind us vulnerable men can be!!!

I think I've paid my dues now though and just want to get on with the rest of my life. My kids are dead cool btw

Jaw - I'd guess you're female?

Write to her recorded mail, explain the situation, and state that this has all been on the advice from the CSA.

And dont feel like you have been 'ripped off'

Your kids already confirm you did the right thing by being open and honest with you and knowing you support them in all ways.

If she gets her knickers twisted she can contact the CSA and they will tell her exactly as you have.

Your kids are old enough to know whats what so the only backlash you should feel will be from her, and I am probably sure by now you wont give a toss anyway.

Its her new hubby I feel for...hes going to be hearing about it all day and night

ronwilson23

Yes, I'm female.

I married someone who turned out to be egocentric, and had a whole different agenda to me - and priorities. Unfortunately his children never came even close to the the top of his list, emotionally or financially.

Sounds like we're both well rid

jaw:)

Hi Jaw,

You have so much insight!!! Aye - her new hubby's welcome. I often feel sorry for him, but it's only for a fleeting moment. She had him 'in the bag' while we were still married, as her escape route, even although she maintained to my face that there was 'no other man' (I suspected there was - us men aren't all daft - but suspended belief in th eface of her denials - mayne I was daft after all!!!) That was the extent of our relationship and what hurt the most and when I realised I was dealing with a breed of person I didn't and would never understand - she didn't have the decency or gumption to be honest with me after 10 years.

I've already emailed her, and told her what's happening. I'll let her take the next steps - one way or another she'll soon realise there's nothing to be gained and in fact if she pushes it she could lose.

It's mildly satisfying, and I don't mean to be self rigteous here, that common sense and decency prevail in the end.

I can sleep at night knowing I've done the best I can all round, and the kids have turned out more than OK, but for me at least, I now want to move on, although not from the kids who'll always be in my life one way or another.

Nice to meet you, even if only on a divorce forum.

Good luck - I hope everything works out for you.

Ron