Child support

If my wife moves out as is and allways has been her intention is she duty bound to pay towards the upkeep of the children. She is moving out and the 3 children will stay with me. She will pick them up from school and bring them home as part of an access agreement.she is trying to get me to sign an agreement where i will keep the children with me in the event of a permanent split and she will not contest this as long as i do not chase for child mantenance.

All parents are morally obliged to pay towards the upkeep of their children.

It seems, from what you say, that your wife is trying to bribe you into accepting sole financial responsibility for your children. Are you prepared for that outcome? Do you earn enough to support your children and yourself long term?

I'm not sure if you signing an agreement, stating she doesn't have to pay maintenance for the children is entirely legal...don't think it would stand up in court where the best interests of the children would be paramount.

You could always approach the CSA if and when she has gone.

Your wife is legally obliged to support the children. Neither of you can sign this away. You can not bother to ask her for support, but you can't promise never to. This is so that the state doesn't end up supporting the children in the event that you were unable to work.

Best wishes,
Sadie

Excuse me but as an unemployed father who has spent his entire working life paying sky high taxes why shouldn't the state pay for my kids now that I have been thrown on the scrap heap.
I love this notion that we live in welfare state but when an NRP wont pay for their kids then the kids have to live in poverty.
Enough of my tax money when on greedy overpaid bankers and expense fiddling MPs.

James 53
If you are unemployed the government will be subsidising your children.In the form of benefits.
I'm sure people who earn well and pay lots in taxes and don't have any kids could well pose the same logic you just have and say why should my taxes go towards paying for your kids.
Actually,I realise I'm wrong there, that logic would hold far more credence than your ramblings.

I've worked for nearly 26 years paying tax the whole time. My stbx has been working 30 years, we supported our kids for 20 years, we had 'em, we kept 'em. When do I get my rebate for the 6 years i've paid in and got nothing back???

Yeah and I wanna know when i get me free house rebate from the harridan.
Having to give away a house to raise them kids in after all the tax I paid to the govt!!!WHERES MY FREE HOUSE