My ex ruined my day with my lil one

My ex decided to ruined my day with my lil one, asking for £100 a month from me to help her pay for piano lessons, now I don't mind doing this, and me saying that I will think about it, has in her mind think that I won't support her, I have not stated what I have decided, I think she has gone all money mad and wants me to pay for everything, I don't object to paying over a £100 but I am having to workout what I can afford, I already pay for hotel and fuel costs when I visit my lil girl plus clothes, books and sometimes cash, and my ex calls me selfish

I feel bad inside and feel treated like I am not doing enough and my ex won't allow overnight stays with me, her father, the one who loves my lil girl unconditionally, so what do I do, it's all quite sudden and I am worried that she will stop contact with my lil daughter which bought me to tears

Hi Pheo,
I know the loss of contact is something which is really worrying you, as is the possibility your daughter could disappear abroad if you don't do as your wife wants. But none of this means you have to pay more than you can afford and there really is going to come a point where a line is drawn and you don't cross it anymore.

Have you sorted child maintenance arrangements with her? If not, I recommend you do this immediately so your ex knows how much she has for your daughter. As you have no overnights, it's not unreasonable that you perhaps pay additional items as and when but that too doesn't mean your wife can rely on you to pick up the pieces when it suits her. It is not selfish to get on with your life - and part of that includes having a home (even a small one) where you can take your daughter on a regular basis. Have a good look at the CSA website as they do take into account travel when calculating maintenance.

Sadly, we all have to face up to the fact that our children will not have as much as they could have had if we had stayed together as parents. Something perhaps your wife needs to get her head round? In this day and age, extra-curricula activity is a luxury for many families where parents are together... Whilst you are under no obligation to tell her what you earn etc., perhaps working out a budget for a 2bed house/flat on your salary, including all bills, travel etc. will show her that if you are to be allowed to get on with life (as she is quite happily getting on with hers), she is going to have to be reasonable.

Other than that, file for divorce so the finances are sorted formally and you both know where you stand. I know you are worried about the consequences of taking this action and your access but it is not acceptable that you're having to live your life as a father in this way.

Take care.

Tell her No.Point out you are skint because she chose to leave you for another bloke.Hence you haven't got the money for Piano lessons.Because you haven't even got the money to live.
Don't be blackmailed!!!
All the best
Pete

Oh babes I think she is being so very unreasonable and I really do think you have rights and that she will have to be able to stay overnights with you too you are her father, you need to get a solicitor (if not already) and get this sorted it is so very cruel. Keep your chin up and keep going don't give up trying to get what you are entitled to. Does your ex not realise how much you mean to each other (you and your daughter)? Take care xxxx