man seeking child maint. from ex wife

Thanks sadie, thats my inention, but my hubby is an airline pilot, so there is no way Im gonna be able to get a job bringing in anywhere near the same kind of money he does. (which I suppose is why Im objecting to paying as much maintenance as he has paid in the past) I am happy to pay for her, of course I am, but ex doesnt seem to think our circumstances should be taken into account. we have both spoken to the CSA this morning, and hopfully can now come to some agreement between ourselves! but thanks for the repiles everyone!

Pay the same percentage of your income as he did.But 15/20% of nothing is nothing.
Thats where it is down to you and your new husband to decide how much you think is fair out of your household income.Your not working is through choice.
Your partner will be taking home £3000 approx a month.Rather than just saying I don't work what's to stop you rather than sitting at home getting a part time job for lets say £400 to £600 a month and giving it all to your husband as contribution to your daughters upbringing.That way its between you and your husband keeps your partner out of it who by the way earnings are a complete irrelevance and cannot be claimed against legally.
But to then say well I don't work so the daughter gets nothing off me would be rather aggravating when your husband has legally and morally fulfilled his obligation for 10 years.
Maybe thats a fair answer all round
All the best
Pete

I would explain to your ex that he can go to the CSA by all means, but they will get your information, see you earn nothing and then send him a letter saying you owe him £0 a month.

Then offer him an amount you are happy with.

ChocHobNob wrote:

I would explain to your ex that he can go to the CSA by all means, but they will get your information, see you earn nothing and then send him a letter saying you owe him £0 a month.

Then offer him an amount you are happy with.

As has been mentioned several times; there is a difference between what's legal and what's moral.

You took his money, for years. If he can get himself to work everyday to meet his financial obligations to his child so can you.

I was replying directly to the question, which as it currently stands, if the ex goes to the CSA they will not be interested in the OP's new partner's income and so anything she pays above the nil assessment will be more than she is legally required to.

We don't know if the OP has any other children who may be very young or any other details of her life and its very unlikely that with a part time job she'll be able to earn as much to pay the amount of child support that her ex was paying when earning in excess of £55,000 a year.

Then it will come down to the moral obligation of the OP's new partner paying the ex child support for his step child out of his own wages. Not many step parents would be too happy about that.

Can you give us a bit more information. How old is your daughter, why has she now after 10 years gone to live with her father? Does he not really want her if he is a pilot and is quibbling over money?

Do you still see your daughter - I would imagine if you do you pay for her and buy her things when she is with you.

ok, extra info as requested.....I have triplets at home (aged 15months......so what I could earn would pay out in childcare) Thats NOT to say my 2nd hubby wont pay "my share towards daughter out of our family income" .....my main reason for the post was 2nd hubby thought his wages were going to be assessed again by CSA and his other childrens maintenance might be redueced......which after a few years of angst the situtaion between him and his ex has just settled into a nice routine....he was worried any downward change to his maintenance would affect this.

Yes I see daughter .....she moved to live with her father after meeting a boy!!

Her move was completely against my wishes.......but had the support of her father.....having never looked after a teenage girl before I dont think he knew what was involved......but that is another issue in itself!

Daughter doesnt go without from either parent.

thanks for the interesting comments so far!


chochobnob....thats exactly what I have done!