Is there something I'm missing?

You might be reading too much into things, but you know your ex better than anyone here.
Going to Uni is a big step in a child's life and it is reasonable as a father to want to be involved in that decision and he may also be wanting to build bridges. He may also want to use one of theas road-trips to tell him about his new life. Who knows?
Continue to encourage you son to speak /meet his father but 17 yearolds can be quite black and white in their views....

To miss-quote Mark Twain
"When I was 14 I couldn't stand to be in the same room as my father such was his ignorance. When I spoke with him again when I was 21 it was good to see how much he had learned"

LB

Joe/Bren

Thank you both for your replies.

Joe, my ex has refuses to have any contact with me. From very early on he dictated that all communication regarding our daughter would be between them. With our son it wasnt much longer before any plans to see him were organised between them, this included a holiday to the US last December and when their return was delayed due to the weather I was not informed or given any idea of when they would be back. It was on their return that my ex flatly refused to see me when he dropped our son off. I had to park around one side of a cafe whilst he parked around the other and our son had to shuffle between with his luggage. This was the last time my son saw his dad, his decision.

I would now find it very difficult to approach him, which I find very sad.

Bren

I hear and read on wiki time and again about how older children especially girls are estranged from the parent who left. My ex was warned within days of his leaving (from a friend who had been there) that he may lose his children. He said then and later to me that, that was the chance he had to take.

xx

Lost Boy

To miss-quote Mark Twain
"When I was 14 I couldn't stand to be in the same room as my father such was his ignorance. When I spoke with him again when I was 21 it was good to see how much he had learned"

Wow!!

Reading back my last post. I know its not all about me, I promise. I just think that if we could correspond between us then maybe bridges could be built between him and the kids. However, there is another factor here and there in lies the stumbling block. Have been assured that this factor wants nothing to do with his children and I suspect has planned everything from the beginning to alienate them from their dad.

They didn't stand a chance really

xx

I have also a daughter .
she is not mix up with me.
i am working lady,so i can't give more time to her.I am very confused.
Is there something i'm missing.
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