Unbelievable - Again!!!! A rant sorry

You've got us all on a rant now. What a rat. This is the type of behaviour that gives absent parents a bad name.(remember lots do pay!!)

You have been really badly treated. Is his another case where the law does not protect the innocent?

Poppy

Thank you for all your replies I have calmed down a little now Good news is he collected from school even though he said he wouldnt ( i had my friend on standby for collection just in case, i didnt go to the school out of principle)

Thing is the older 2 know exactly what he should be paying my 10yo discusses with her friends who have split parents how much is paid and she tells ex on a regular basis he should be paying alot more - in fact her last idea was she get a bank account and her dad would pay her direct and then she would give it to me - bless .

I also wouldn't mind so much if he took them places but he does nothing but pub or home watching TV and my eldest is still waiting for a 13th b'day present her birthday was in the summer holidays.

Oh well i will carry on and in not much time the children will see him for what he is and make their own choices.

Ok rant again!!! just need to let it out

kids back from their stay this weekend and it turns out my ex has told the children
1) his gf wants a baby but he isn't sure - why oh why would you tell your 10 and 13 yo daughters this?? Result upset children and he hasn't even had another child yet - he can't pay for the ones he has

and then

2) he tells the kids i earn about loads and loads more than i do!!! why would he do this ? - maybe thats how he justifies not giving me a decent amount of money - however the children told him that i couldnt earn that much as we had a discussion last week on whether we would loose child benefit and the amount he was quoting was over the higher rate tax threshold (i wish)

and then finally

3) in the same conversation about money he told kids the Consent Order that 'signed over' the joint debt to me (that i struggle to pay so i dont go bankrupt) went to crown court and he sat in court and laughed when the judge made the order (so i tokd the girls no i got it written by a solicitor and then we both signed it and i posted it to the court where it got stamped at a date we didnt know and then it came back no court appearance as all) WTF he is on another planet i just don't understand and the sad thing is the girls said dont worry mum we know that 90% of what dad says is lies so we dont believe him

How sad - he must live on another planetor the prolonged use of alcohol has addled his brain - how did i stay with this excuse for a man for sooo long

Rant over xx thanks

Hi. It's Poppy again.

Well at least you got that off your chest! He really is not being fair. Not sure what he is thinking because telling the kids he laughed at the court order does not put him in a good light.

He sounds confused and you have managed to hold the home together for the kids. You have done well and you will probably find in the long term you have done the right thing going your separate ways. Its tough for you at the moment but hang on in there.

Take care

Poppy