advice needed - DIY divorce with child involved

Hi

I need some advise please!!

My ex husband and I are starting divorce proceedings and it is amicable. thing is He is doing the divorce himself to avoid solicitors fees which is fine as Long as we do get it sorted.

what concerrns me is he is not doing anything legal about my son being with me full time and the legalising the finances as he has told me if I move in with someone else he will not pay maintenance but put it in a trust fund for my son when he is 18! surely this cannot be right - I need the money to look after my son!

am i being greedy or should I ensure that i still get the money if my living arangements change?

any advise would be appreciated as I want this sorted.

thank you

Louise

He's talking rubbish and the CSA would be more than happy to put him right on this

LB

Yes, lb is right.

The ONLY legal obligation in separation and divorce is to the children and if its 1 its 15% of his income.

Check the CSA website to get an idea of what your LO is entitled to a month.
you dont forfeit your right to CS if a new partner comes on the scene.
The only time a father doest have to pay is if he isnt on the birth cert.

hi

do you think I need to get legal advise on this? I am thinking he will kick off about this and I want something legal to say he has to pay me no matter what happens to me in the months/years to come if I move in with someone else or give him one chance to see it my way and then go to the csa?

Hi,
Start here....
www.csa.gov.uk/
In terms of legal advice, I don't think you need it regarding this bit, as its fairly clear cut.
If he doesn't see sense you might want to think about mediation

LB

Yes, I would let him know that he can either pay what the CSA recommends to you in formal agreement or you will apply to have them assess him and he can pay them directly.

there is no getting out of CM if you are named on the bc.

Now, if he is say, paying the mortgage and not living in the house then it is reasonable to expect one or the other, in an informal agreement for the time being.
but once the finances are settled and you do agree there is no way to get out of CM which is why the courts do not make orders for it anymore unless it is tied to Spousal Maint. in a Global order. If you have a Clean Break settlement then the courts advise going via the CSA or agreeing CM yourselves.

thank you all so much for your advice - I am going to talk to him once more and failing that I wil contact the CSA.

can i do anything legally to ensure my son lives with me and not him, - I do not want him to turn up on my door and demand my son live with him and I cannot do anything about it?