child support

My ex and i seperated 2003 untill 2009 we had a private agreement and he paid £125 monthly. He then quit his job and has not supported our daughter since.He lives 300 miles away and and remains out of work. Since he married in 2009 he has refused to provide any kind of support. there are many issues regarding contact i.e no contact details, poor sleeping arrangements,malicious texts from his wife and lack of financial support. She used to visit him during school holidays ,i used to drive there to drop her off and he used to bring her home. One of my many worries is the welfare of our daughter. I can no longer afford to take her to see him as petrol alone costs £95 my view is if he can not afford £5 a week support how can he feed her for the time she is there.Am i being reasonable or am i thinking negativly this has been going on for 17 months now and i accept i may now have a blinkered view of things.

finances and contact are not linked so if he cant pay child support that is not sufficient grounds to withold contact.
It is best to take a step back when there has been amnimosity in the past and see if you can both draw a line in the sand and start over as coparents. It is normally better for children to see both parents getting along than seeing them arguing as this makes them feel guilty or that they may have skewed loyalites.

Is there anyway drop off points can be done midway so the petrol isnt so much?
Was it his choice to move so far away?

Due to him being violent we split. He worked monday to friday ,i worked thursday to sunday. He refused to look after her when i was at work as he said it was not fair his weekends being used up on our daughter. He failed to accept my weekends were mid week. as i had no body to watch our daughter i could not work and could not pay the mortgage so i had to move back to my home town where i have a family network. Things went well 2003-2009 , he then married and everything went wrong as his wife appears jealous of how ammicable we had been.Since he has stopped paying support i now work 50 hours a week to ensure the mortgage ,bills etc are paid. I can only just afford petrol to get to work.I know that he would never be violent towards our daughter but his wife does not appear to have her best interests at heart. I asked that they come here so his wife and i can meet and try to find some common ground but they refuse. Due to him hospitalising me my parents will not help as they dont want my daughter to see him at all and they always objected to the contact they did have. I do accept she needs to see her dad