CSA Advice Please

Dear All

Spoke to STBX last night re missed CSA (£1k now) & if any especially Xmas CSA would be paid. Apparently the CS is only a gift for the kids & should not be relied upon nor expected month by month as other expenses come 1st.

After this & the fact that I was thretening & bullying / telling STBX what to do I spoke to a very nice CSA lady today.

I was told I have 2 options:

1 To apply for CSA direct to calculate & request payments (FoC) making them in the same arrangement as now from STBX, but if payments missed the ability to hand it over to them to chase etc (so I dont have to deal with STBX).

2 To put the CSA payments as part of the finacial Consent Order & if payements missed go back to court to enforce them.

Not sure which is the best option for me? I cannot go on the way it is wondering each month if it will be paid & trying to save for the time it isnt. (Needed the Xmas payment as borrowed money from family member for a repair to the house & have now fallen out with said familiy member cos I cannot repay due to CS not being forthcomming).

Plus cannot be typecast as a bully / with threatening behaviour because that is the STBX & I am just lost for words that this has all been turned round on me.

Please if anyone can help - before I go completely nuts at the moment I am so sensative re anything that anyone says that I believed STBX & am now questioning how i act / react to others & just want to hid away from everyone (which was probably the intention but it shouldn't have worked)

Thank you JJx

I would just get the csa to chase him, no courts to deal with and is fes paye his income will be easily traced.

Thanks EoH

His income should be easily traceable as he is a PAYE taxpayer (at the moment), part of me doesnt want to antagonise him as finances were supose to be sorted by mediation but now his sols say they are "considering the finances" - so it may all change & TBH I just want the whole thing over & done with so I can sort out my own finances (without having to ask him to sign anything - which he wont do anyway).

I will waite till the next pmt is due & if it is a no show contact the CSA.

Thanks again JJx

Use CSA collection service. If he doesn't pay and is employed they will get a DEO pretty sharpish.

In my opinion CSA are pretty useless but you don't really have any other option and chasing an employed none payer is easy even for them.