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hi sunsparkle
i do sympathise. we are going through exactly the same.
i think someone else hit the nail on the head - the money is provided for the kids, NOT for the ex to live in the same manner that she used to - at the expense of you/their dad.
my ex frequently 'requests' we keep the kids for the whole of the following day after a night sleepover. apart from meaning she gets another day 'off' - it also means we have further expense.
also frequently asked to have fed the kids before the drop off, even when its early, like 5pm.
we have found that the ex 'puts ideas' into the kid's heads. it's very obvious as the language they use when asking for things is very adult and not words they would generally use.
from your side of things it is difficult and i know it can get hard to differentiate between the ex and the kids. what i mean by that, is sometimes we don't agree to having the kids on a certain day - even when, of course, we want to see them - but because we know we are being made mugs out of
keep strong as a couple. pick your battles and don't back down from them.
sometimes we think she is getting the message, then it gets bad again.
we have noticed it usually flares up after the kids have been here.
they adore my new partner and love staying with us and think possibly their comments on returning only serve to wind her up.
she clearly has nothing better to do with her time than try to cause trouble.
this is something i think you should be aware of too, she will probably be trying to put a wedge between you too, as you seem strong.
i hope your partner lets the ex know that you are consulted on everything.
anyway, i dont know if this helps, but believe me, you are not alone.
ex wives can be greedy (and them being the cause of the split sadly doesn't appear to give them any humility either)
you must set your stall out now and stick to it.
i know of friends who buy the kids clothes, then keep them at their house, as the ex sends them in awful stuff, in the hope dad will buy lots of new things. it's wrong, be strong and don't be taken in by greedy ex wives
good luck

Thank you so much... Yes it seems we are not alone. Your experience sounds pretty much like like. I just doent know waht happens to some ex wives (I stress SOME). The bitterness does seem to eat them away and what hope do they have of being in a happy loving relationship again when harbouring such feelings. Anyway thats not our issue as its the boys who matter nad again your right we just need to stay strong - but god its tiring at times as I can tell you know first hand. Everythings a battle and made to be complicated.
Thanks again for your mail, it goes along way knowing there's others out there goiung through the same - regardless of being fair