change to regularity of payment

I am trying to make him see that thats right and not me trying to fiddle him

hello,

I have a bills/budget acc, and a normal current account. All my bills add up to £xx amount so on the first of the month that amount goes in and does not get dipped into. Any extra goes into the current account for day to day stuff. I don't even carry the bills account bank card around with me.

It was really really hard work and alot of going without to manage to be discaplined enough to not dip into it.

My credit rating looks better as a result too cos there's money sitting in a bank account for most of the month.

It's not easy, could you suggest a few months at fortnightly? then go monthly.

It's going to be a tough few months for you (((((((()))))))))

xx

Would it perhaps help if you worked out for him how much it should be in a year and then let him work it monthly.

So back to my £50pw - "hey x, £50 pw would be 52 weeks so £2,600. Paying me monthly is fine but we need to make sure for child's sake I still get the same amount".

I realise it is not what you want but I also have an ex who does as he wants and sometimes it's better just to go with it. As long as you get the cold hard cash!!

Good Luck

GMS

Is he planning on giving you the money in advance or in arrears? If its in advance might be worth going alpong to maintain status quo.

CSA payments can be weekly, four weekly, monthly or any other period.

He just said as of next month he is going to pay me monthly. I asked about what date etc he said I should just look out for the money in my bank account. He really is just doing it to make things difficult for me.

how awkward for you!

I would sugest that you work out how much the monthy payment should be (weekly payment x 52 divided by 12) and also which date he owes from (based on the last payment you received)

If he does not pay the correct amount then write to him (keeping a copy) setting out your calculation, the amount owing and the regulatr monthly payment due, and making clear that if he does not immediately pay the shortfall and provide proof that he has set up the correct standing order that you will be returning the matter to court to enforce the order in which case you will seek your costs and interest on any shortfall

Hopefully it won't be necessary to actually do so, but if he has done his sums wrong you need to ensure it is corrected without delay.

Good luck!

Thanks I shall certainly be making sure I do get the right amount. This week is maintenance on the weekend he was re arranging his days which has resulted in him not seeing his kids for 17 days. I will wait with baited breath to see what he does next week.