Livid

I am so livid after 24 weeks of waiting for the CSA to sort out my claim they call me yesterday to tell me i have a nill entitlement! It is disgusting where is that fair on a child?

My ex gave up an excellent job in the prison service and started hs own buisness as a ourier in Feb this year. What they are telling me is due to set up costs his buisness is running at a loss so a big fat zero for your daughter i am afraid.

I am so livid i asked can i appeal he said you can but it is not worth it as we have gone on facts and figures given!

Has this happened to anyone else and is there anything i can do??

Thanks

Hi, sorry for your situation.

This happens to people all the time.
There is nothing you can do to stop an ex giving up work etc.

You can appeal but unless they have made a mistake with the figures it is unlikely to get anywhere. One bit of advice I would give though is don't have any telephone contact with the CSA keep all communication in writing. Better evidence trail when they mess up.

All you can do is watch. If things seem to pick up put in for a CoC review. If he seems to be living beyond his means ask for a variation.

Is he likely to have any other source of income or assets worth more than £65k?

Unfortunately, and in my experience, the CSA are not adept at extracting money from the self-employed.

My youngest son has just finished at college so CSA will end presently. My ex has charges against his house and is some £9000 in arrears. He is self-employed...

I have learnt, over 15 years, not to rely on any contributions from him. I know this is easier said than done but then anything I do receive is a bonus!

It's sad when a parent hates their ex more than they love their child/ren. My ex would happily see his 2 boys go without under the misguided belief that he's getting one over on me.

Rest assured children quickly get the measure of BOTH parents and providing you've got their best interests at heart they can and will flourish.

Read the posts in the spotlight section on the self-employed to gain some insight into what lies ahead...

All the best jaw

Thanks for the replies how true that is Jaw and i never looked at it like that about him hating me more than loving the kids!

Luckily i have a good job and can support her but what if i did not where does the childrens act and safeguarding children come into this!

It stinks as i know he can afford to give me money as he lives quite a good standard of life.

As you say kids soon learn what their parents are!

Hi alideniz. I am in same boat as you, my ex gave up a good paid job to go self employed and has stopped child maintenance. Ex is just being selfish. He knew this would cause so many problems and he is supposed to care for his child...unfortunately OW is very much in control and so his own son will suffer. We can scream about it all but that's as far as we'll get.

I'm going through the same thing at the moment and have recently appealed on the grounds that his lifestyle is not in keeping with his income.

Yes ex has a GF, but I'm not sure she is paying all the bills as I think she works PT (she is there at times I drop children off & its still work hours for most people then), so he's likely to be contributing, though I could be wrong.

Ex is paying arrears back at £25 pw though with a nil assessment because he earns less than £5 pw this should not be possible!

Does he have anyone else to support him? Its just a thought as he'll need to feed and house himself.

I think ex is having a go at me by not paying but its the children that miss out in the end. And often they are so blind to it they cannot see the potential damage they are causing.

Oh yes, so so true. My ex hates me with a vengeance. Aren't they funny!