child support payments

My ex pays CS direct from his wages and begrudges every penny that he pays. I had an issue a while ago with me sending clothes and things going missing and not coming back and his attitude was kinda oh well. Now I have stopped sending stuff because I simpy cannot afford to replace the clothes in this manner. I have explained to my ex that the money that I receive is to provide for the children whilst they are in my care - the deduction he receives is a result of his responsibility to provide for the children while they are with him....He begs to differ and believes it is my responsibilty to support the children while they are with him because he pays me. It it normal for the ex partner to have no clothes whatsoever in their house for their children when they come to stay ??
He says hes going to take me back to court because of this - which the cheek of it annoys me as he can't spend 40 quid buying a couple of tshirts and jeans yet can spend money to go and argue this out.
Am i being irrational here??

xx

He won't get anywhere with court so don't worry about that.

No, it's not irrational. It's very annoying and I got to the point where I was being given clothes by friends to dress the children in because nothing was coming back (they were going in casual clothes but coming back in school uniform and the ex was denying that he had any clothes for them at all!. It never corrected itself except to say the ex got fed up and at the moment isn't seeing the children.

I would stick to your guns with it, because although it is perfectly possible to purchase cheap clothing, it's not cheap when you have to do it every single week. Depending on their age, you could ask them to re-fill their bags at the end of time with dad, perhaps?

Your ex should keep a few clothes for them, yes. You can't be expected to mind read and know what they need for the weekend or pack for every eventuality. A couple of pairs of jeans, cheap pair of trainers and a couple of tops and some socks and underwear (would cost him less than £50 in the supermarkets for two children) is not unreasonable.

Sorry - not much help but at least you know it's a common issue and one many of us have had to deal with!