wants more child maintanence

Hi
Thanks for all the advice given it was all really reassuring and backing up what i was thinking and knowing im going along the right lines.
All the things you pointed out about writing to her would be no good as she refuses to discuss or talk to me so its very hard to achieve anything anyway.
At least I know im going along the right lines anyway and i know theses figures are all a guide anyway and id rather not use the csa anyway, i just need to be confident in what im thinking which iam, the figures i worked on were with all those deductions anyway as thats how the csa work it out anyway using my 3 most recent pay slips
She does use our son as a lever and wether anyone believes me or not im not bothered but she does and its horrible seeing it happen each time im sorry if anyone reading this disagrees but each persons situation is different and has its own difficulties.
thanks for all the advice and at least im going along the right lines
Thanks

Hi Pete thanks for the advice, thats what i have done and ive worked out im paying roughly £35 more than what the csa guide says but i realisei its only a rough guide at least im there or there abouts. i just wanted to get peoples opinions with out having to go to my soilicitor and it seems as though im doing the right thing, is there anything else you think i should be doing or could do?
What really through me was when the divorce Absolute was granted and no financial settlement was asked for as my solicitor expected she would do why do you think this was? This is what my x does any time she wants anything she tells me then keeps on.
Thanks for your help much appreciated

I would be very concerned if I were you about not having a settlement in place. This effectively leaves either of you open to the claim from each other in the future.
Whilst she might not particularly want a settlement at the moment, as to do so might mean selling the house or having to take on a debt, it just prolongs the uncertainty between you.
Imagine - you may well meet someone and your finances become more stable. You work hard to put a few savings away and rebuild all the belongings that you might have lost during your divorce. Wouldn't it make more sense to wait until you are in this situation with more to your name?
Don't forget - you've as much right to request a settlement as she has.