Gay sperm donor forced to pay CSA

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2224536...rs-barely-knows.html

I read this story a moment ago and wondered what other peoples thoughts were. I personally think whilst he was initially doing a wonderful thing for the couple involved, they perhaps should have gone through the proper channels from the beginning. The part where he says the law should be changed to acknowledge his situation certainly struck a chord with me. If this was the case, whats to stop more men claiming they were a donor to avoid paying maintenance? Obviously it wouldnt be as simple as that but in my opinion it would cause more problems. My ex pays the bare minimum after lying about his income, and has often threatened to take that away too. As we were married he couldnt claim he was just a donor but i''m sure it wouldnt stop other men from trying it!!

Interesting split on the red arrows and the green arrows. In many respects both extremes are right - he should have checked the legal implications before donating.

A central issue in this case is that when the children were conceived it was very difficult, if not impossible, for a lesbian couple to get artificial insemination through official channels. So people used all sorts of arrangements, from informal donor services (unregulated but anonymous) to friendly men offering to help out.

In this case I think that the man did the couple an enormous favour, twice, and they are now behaving extremely badly.

Best wishes,
Sadie

There is clearly a grey area but unfortunately ignorance of the law is no defence.

In this case, the lesbian couple who brought up the child subsequently separated. The natural mother of the child had no legal recourse to her ex partner as the child was not adopted by the outgoing party. The mother''s only course of action was to seek payments from the natural father.

I''m not sure if there is a method of receiving sperm donations ''at arms length'' so to speak other than through formal procedure i.e. anonymous donations.

The problem with formal, anonymous donation is that the law changed fairly recently so that children born after 2005 can trace the anonymous donor if they wish to. This led to fewer donations as donors appear to abide by the motto "donate not congregate".

Charles

I suppose the moral of the story for sperm donors is that life is tough enough for biological fathers who want to be responsible for their children following separation, without offering yourself up as a ''sacrificial lamb'', even with the best of intentions.

I think he was very naive to do this without looking into what the legal implications would be.

The mother and her partner could both have adopted the children giving both of them the same rights and obligations to support their children.

I think he would have had to have been named on the birth certificate in order to have his parental rights formally removed by a court and free the children for adoption. It would not be a cheap process probably.

Looking back though this chap did appear to have some sort of relationship with the children in the past when they girls were younger, therefore was he a donor or a daddy when it suited him.

Interesting topic

jslgb wrote:

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2224536...rs-barely-knows.html

I read this story a moment ago and wondered what other peoples thoughts were. I personally think whilst he was initially doing a wonderful thing for the couple involved, they perhaps should have gone through the proper channels from the beginning. The part where he says the law should be changed to acknowledge his situation certainly struck a chord with me. If this was the case, whats to stop more men claiming they were a donor to avoid paying maintenance? Obviously it wouldnt be as simple as that but in my opinion it would cause more problems. My ex pays the bare minimum after lying about his income, and has often threatened to take that away too. As we were married he couldnt claim he was just a donor but i''m sure it wouldnt stop other men from trying it!!

I was used as a donor by my ex and I never paid a penny. I saved it and now the kids are set up for Uni

And she''s been sacked off by them both LOL!