Providing a home plus maintenance? Is 28% too much

If you''ve already signed a Consent Order about the division of assets it might be too late - however, it seems strange that you should have signed a concept order without having had any financial disclosure. Was this before the redundancy? If you have signed a consent order and it hasn''t yet been signed and sealed by a judge, and you haven''t yet had any financial disclosure then you stand a good chance of being able to change your mind and withdraw your consent (although I don''t know how you go about this).

The statement of arrangements isn''t legally binding, so be sure you aren''t getting this confused with a consent order (which covers all of your financial assets! A statement of arrangements is childcare / residence /education agreements)
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Are things amicable enough that you can re negotiate with your stbx? I think it is admirable you want to contribute what your child needs, rather than stick rigidly to an arbitrary amount picked by a government body, but totally understand you need to make it affordable for yourself too. Would a good compromise be that, as nursery fees drop then you reduce the amount of maintenence you are paying? Eg, drop it when the 15 free hours kick in when your lo turns 3, then drop again after his 4th birthday when he starts school drop it again, and so over the next 2 -3 years you would gradually bring it in line with CSA guidelines. This would also give your stbx plenty of time to find a new job, so that she isn''t reliant on your maintenance. It would mean you are short on money, but is this manager if you know it''s only for a couple of years?

I want to know where the CSA dreamed up that fraction if the child stays with the NRP(the Dad) one or more night per week?
If I look after my kids 3 nights a week, that''s only the difference of one night, therefore I should only be paying my ex wife for the difference in days for which we care for our children.

It really sickens me that my ex wife can live in a mansion paid mostly by the state, yet I have to live in a modest home by comparison, work a 50 hour week, and yet be still demanded to pay for the days my children are not(cannot) be with me, and if I complain, my ex-wife xan refuse even those days and the CSA will take even more in maintenance. I will be barely holding my head above water when the divorce is finalised, but my ex will still be able to live the life of riley and go on holidays when I cannot. CSA wouldn''t care if I lived in a box on the street and never saw my kids as long as they get their multiple pounds of flesh. CSA = Anti Dad.