When a child refuses to go to father...

What do you do when your child refuses to go to father's residence? (No other party involved).

Can you give more details? Do you mean an order is in place, or do you want child to feel like going, but they dont want to?

Hope we can help- everything involving the children is really difficult when it comes to knowing how to do the best by them....

Have 3 children, the middle child has learning difficulties and 'hates' going to fathers' residence. First hearing coming up soon, ie ancilliary relief. Bit complicated...

You make them go - just like you would make them go to school when they complain they hate it, and just like you make them eat veg even though they hate that too.

Sorry probably not the news you want, but that it your duty as the resident parent, and that is what a court would make you do.

If it helps, I can tell you a tale about my own little one. She was just 2 when I left her dad, and we had a shared care arrangment. When he would come to collect her she would get in such a state that she would wrap her hands into my hair and he would have to literaly drag her off me while her big sister would free my hair. It would then take him 20 mins or more to get her into her car seat. By the time he got her home she would be fine.

3 years later, she told us she didnt like shared care. She told us she felt like the present in pass the parcel - she chose to live with daddy, who frankly and when I am being honest I am able to say is the better parent out ofthe two of us.

Dont worry about whinges over contact - perfectly normal, especially as they will know your feelings about dad however hard you try to hide them. Just keep sending them!

Amanda