Should I pay for kids holidays & other \"one offs\"

Although I have calculated the monthly amount I should pay using the CSA calculator, I've never gone through CSA or court order and have always paid a reg monthly agreed figure (over the recommended amount) for over 6 years. I have, however, always paid for "one off" items such as holidays, school trips etc. Am I just a soft touch or is it reasonable for the parent without care to pay half for one off items like this? Should the monthly amount I pay cover expenses for things like school trips? What do others think?

Dont think its a question of ' should' , or being a sort touch, as far as your children are concerned.

If you can afford it, why would you not want help your kids as much as possible ?

If you are having a problem affording things, then make this clear to your ex.

Agree to pay 1/2 - both parents should equally contribute to big expenses such as school trips, holidays etc.

Interestingly child maintenance is for all everyday living expenses for the child - so this includes school meals, clothes etc. If you want to provide more then good for you.

If it is financially viable for you to provide more then go for it, why should the kids suffer, however, if you can't afford it - you can't afford it. If the ex goes off on one then let her, she can always approach the CSA. Some ex's will just take take take and take advantage of your good will.

Propose that for big expenses then you both go halves - if not the the kid don't go, simple as that I'm afraid.