please I am at my wits end stupid consent orders

I have been divorced 4 years now but my financial side of my divorce wasn't sorted out my divorce solicitor wouldn't touch it . Now i understand why ? 2 years ago I went to a new solicitor to get what i thought would be a final agreement. All I wanted was an end to it all closure so to speak. I had been though an awful 20 year marriage to a man who was an alcoholic and a gambler. We live in a totally run down ex council house and we never had anything . No money No nothing . Always in debt even though we both worked and in the last two years of our marriage I was working four jobs just to make ends meet. My ex just gambled and drank all our money away.
Thanks to my parents who helped to pay for clothing and other things for my two boys and myself I would have probably given up . One day it all came to a head the boys where 16 and I had taken enough so I left. The boys at first stayed with him because they where both at collage and I moved quite a distance away . so after waiting 2 years after my divorce I asked him for a settlement but he refused so I ended up taking him to court . I was advised to take out a Consent Order which I was told would sort things out . But it has not. I can't force him to sell the house for 4 years as he has his granddaughter living with him who is on a care order even though he doesn't look after her properly as he is always drunk. I have been to social services to sort this out but they keep siding with him as he lies to them all the time .
my eldest son no longer lives there and was until recently living with me and my younger son doesn't get involved as he still lives there. He has agreed to pay off the joint debts which should have been paid back in feb as agreed in the consent order but he hasn't . I went to the bank to try to sort this but the bank told me that the consent order wasn't worth the paper it was written on and I was still liable to pay including the mortgage as he was only paying the interest. My sol has told me that he is in breech of the consent order but its not worth taking him back to court as i would have to apply for legal aid again and even though they would pursue him for costs he wasn't obliged to pay . So because of all this I am legally black listed for the next 4 years at least until he sells the house so I haven't got my closure and I cannot move on.
It was me that took him to court to get this finalized but its all for him and a complete waste of time and money as this cost me thousands to sort out. I feel like I am trapped in an impossible situation. Has anyone else been in this situation or have any advise as I am so fed up and so down. I asked my doctor for counseling as I never received any at the time of my divorce but he said there was a large waiting list . That was over a year ago and nothing was ever sorted out, but my ex got counseling . He didn't suffer i did I lost my mother to an heart attack 10 days before my little girl was born right in the middle of all this divorce trauma and I didn't get any help. All he does is just rub the whole situation in my face and laughs at me saying he's got one over on me ha ha ha . Please I need some advise just what can I do . Gwenmoon

Hi there

If you can fax me (0151 632 0353) or email me ( This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. ) your consent order, I will have a look and try and help you.

Amanda