Keep dreaming about the split

I have thought about this one also,and wonders does the man I loved for so many years(and still love in a weird way)feature in my subconscious?
The answer he features no more or less than anyone else,he did in the very beginning,but those dark times were sleep deprived anyway.
Like yourself,You got mail,I can remember every intricate detail of the actual moment but the weeks immediately following,I only have snapshots of a memory...
We have all been hurt in the worse way possible,and hurt by the person who should have had our backs for us,and that takes some getting used too(if ever)and our minds and bodies take a battering,and sleep is part of the healing process,maybe in our dreams we can reinact moments of our lives,I don''t know...
We have all had that lovely dream,and we are woken up,damn,we try to drop back off and return to that place,Nada it is not happening,so maybe our dreams where they feature is another way of our subconscious saying Nada not going back there....

The mind is a powerful medicine when you actually tap into it,and it can help us and guide us also.

I would like to share something with you all,and I would like you all to be honest with yourselves.When married although we had a good life,we had the petty arguments as most couples do,There were only a few major ones throughout our marriage,and I mean a few...but since he has gone there are no arguments at all in my house,yes as a family we have heated debates but never argue...food for thought...

Anyway I wish you all a peaceful sleep tonight and every night and also if any of you know Gerard Butler,please tell him he can invade my dreams anytime;)


Cwtchs
Afon xx

I have had a few dreams or nightmares about ex but usually when I have to email him about something. There is no other contact and he''s no longer part of my life but my subconscious obviously isn''t ready yet!

On the other hand, I too feel more relaxed and since he left our lives are a lot simpler and dare I say it happier. I am moving on and I miss being a couple but I don''t miss him.

Can you send James Martin or Colin Firth my way?

Hugs
Pebble xx

YGM I think you have explained so well how shocking it is to go from a happy relationship one minute to complete devastation the next. It is very hard to take in which is maybe why we revisit the relationship in dreams, trying to make sense of it all. I hope you get your new life when the time is right...
Afon, I agree it is very important to be honest and not paint a rose-tinted version of the relationship. I know my relationship was far from perfect and I actually think it was for the best that we separated. Having said that, we still have to grieve the loss of the person we loved (while remembering their really annoying traits )
Pebble, if I see Colin Firth first he''s mine
xxx