Triggers

Hi Moona

Know this , eventually you are going to be ok . That is a given .
Yes, it is a very emotional time for you , the change ,the triggers the memories and of course the sense of loss . It''s bloody Nora , here am I sailing along and my rudder has gone . Now, I do not know where I am headed, I m just floating around in this vast ocean
No sense direction
No sense purpose
I am at the mercy of the waves and current . Life , is coming at me and all I am doing is reacting . And reacting as best I can without a rudder , without a vision . Oh !! I am full of fear and anxiety . I am going to be struck in this vast ocean of life like this forever .

What a load of lies we tell ourselves Moona. I did . I believed . Until , without knowing it I kinda built a rudder . I recognised , that hang on . I control my thoughts my actions my behaviour I am responsible for me . I learned that everything I need is right here inside of me . Boy, I learned the hardware , I looked outside myself to the material world and no it did not work .
I started to look at me inside me my fears my childhood all my past shit and false beliefs , and slowly with help start to break them down .
I was building my rudder , my vision of where I wanted my life to go . It kinda gathers momentum working in congruence with your values and the real you .
Moona , I tell you this fella. You are capable of achieving so much . You ar van amazing person you really are . There is nobody on this planet like you . How unique is that eh . Think about it . Only one you .
Do some mirror work and see for yourself just how good you really are .
If tempted to go to bed and pull covers over , say no I am in charge here .

It''s same old story , look after that boy in you . Feed him , exercise him give him love . Never ever criticise him . He , is hurting right now. Needs love , needs caring for. He sees these triggers , it upsets him . Tell him you love him . Treat him with love . Do not feed him negative thoughts that will not help him . Be positive and gentle with him . Show him you love him . If you cannot give him what he needs right now then say so .
He may want someone to love. Tell him , he is not ready yet . He needs to heal first . Be gentle and kind to others . For others too have their problems in life . Tell him that when someone is nasty , then it is not you . They have demons too . You are responsible for him no one else .
Love him . Stand back and watch him grow man .


Moona , you are going to be ok as is everyone else on here . Trust me , I have seen and been through stuff that you would not believe .
All will be well

Check that one out for starters
Julienne of Norwich re all will be well
She is the patron saint of cats

Check out
Mary Oliver .. The journey

Read , stuff that inspires regularly let it seep into your subconscious .. It is all positive stuff that that boy needs now. There is nothing wrong with him .
Try and be around positive people . I am even grateful when it rains because we need water etc look for the positives they are there .

I did a post a while back about divorce being a good thing . I had some replies back some good some not so good . However, by posting that it made me think . A lot of people suffer unnecessarily . Grieve yes , suffering is up to you .

Trust me , all will be well in your time , your clock , your decision when to put a stop to suffering . You may not see it yet . Trust me it is right under your nose .

Must run got a radio show to do with live bands in studio today . All exciting stuff .

Remember , love him and show you love him .


D

Declan

You are an inspiration - thank you.

M.

Gimme shelter

Again, an inspiring post and I thank you (also for the regular private messages which as you know really help).

That is all good advice.

Many thanks,

M.

Moona

One other thought .

I know what it is like, I know what it is like to try to make your memories go away . You can make new memories . Good ones . Good memories can save your life .

D